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Grab your glass and pull up a chair. It's time for your favorite girls' night in.

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Welcome to Pouring and Parenting, where your besties, Sill and Ainish.

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We're here to laugh through the chaos. Hello, Pours. Let's start the show. Hey, hey, hey. Welcome back to another episode of Pouring and Parenting. It's your girl Einish. Sill. And we are coming at you with a very special episode. Before we get started, Sill, what did you pour?

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Um, well, you know what? It's been a rough day. So I went to what is my go-to drink, which is a white claw black cherry.

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Yummy. We are twinning because I also cracked open a white claw. You can't see it, but I opened a peach. You clicked on parents just don't understand. We received a very special email from one of our valued listeners by the name of Josh and his partner from the UK. So big shout out to the UK, all the UK listeners out there. Thank you so much for tuning in to pouring in parenting. We really appreciate your support. Josh and his partner are expecting their first child, and they sent us an email with very good questions. And as we state on the majority of our episodes, we want you all to send us questions because we will address them. We plan on addressing as many questions as we can because he had a lot of questions. Okay, Josh. But as new parents, that's completely understandable. There is no manual, there is no book that they hand you on your way out of the door after delivering baby. There are so many different opinions, ideas, and suggestions out there. So we appreciate you, Josh, and your partner, for interesting us to ask us some questions. And again, big shout out to the UK to listening to us. Before we jump into the questions that Josh and his partner asked us, we are going to tap into some hot topics. The first hot topic that we'll be tapping into has to deal with technology and how parents deal with technology when it comes to their children. So one of the main focuses that I want to talk about with this particular hot topic is the phone. One little tidbit about parental phone distraction is it's directly linked to increased child injury. And just to give you a quick story of a distracted parent, the tragic scenario in Texas, there was a mother who was accused of texting while three of her children were drowning in an apartment complex. Seconds are crucial in water safety. And in this particular case, it appears that her focus was on the screen, and that prevented her from recognizing that her children were in danger. Um, and it resulted in a fatal outcome, unfortunately. So, what are your thoughts on parental phones distractions?

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So I can totally see that. I would say I'm guilty myself of being distracted uh on my phone. Get work emails, text messages, all sorts of notifications that I get on my phone, or even looking up a recipe, or from looking something up, or just scrolling on social media because I'm sure there's so many of us that kind of get stuck, you know, scrolling. So I I definitely could see that because what are my kids doing while I'm on my phone? I'm assuming they're playing or they're where I left them. But especially with little ones, we know that they move so fast when they want to, especially when we're not looking. So I I have caught myself at times where I'm like, okay, I need to just put my phone down because these kids are gonna get into some mess. In regards to the woman with her children drowning, three, what what were you doing? And I'm sure it was an accident, but that's insane. We need to know as parents our time and place to be on our phones. And once again, like I said, I I don't want to shame anyone because I'm guilty of it myself, but we we as parents need to do better with our phones.

SPEAKER_00 4:31

Absolutely. I that's a tough story to even have to state. I remember when that incident happened, and like I mentioned before, there's over 300 back in 2018. The numbers have grown since 2018, indicating that people aren't, hey, figure it out. The number has increased by 28% between 2019 to 2022. Just taking preventative manners, not trying to bash, because I've been on my phone as well. But if you're specifically by the pool, perhaps appoint your own safety person to make sure that the kids are going to be safe. It's difficult to not pick up the phone. Like you said, you have work emails. People work from their phone. And you just have to find that time to put your phone down and focus on the kids. There are a couple other stats that I read about kids feeling neglected when they see their parents on the phone because they perhaps feel like, oh, I can't talk to mommy or daddy right now because they're looking at the phone. So just a couple things to keep in mind when it comes to being distracted. There's so many other distractions out there, but we're not going to dive into that. Let's move on to the next topic, which is something positive, I guess depending on how you look at it, but the return of the physical book. Books need to come back into play. So I guess it kind of counteracts with electronics. How do you feel about books? Is that something major in your household?

SPEAKER_02 6:10

So um, I really encouraged the use of books in my home. There's one book in particular that my son got for Easter one year. It's called Easter Fun. It's one of those cardboard books um that is very sensory. So it has a little chick and it's fuzzy, it has a basket, and you can feel the weaving out of the basket, you can feel silky petals of the flowers. He loved that book. And I at one point he even had it memorized because we would just read it all the time. So we kept books in the house we would read before bed. I will say we kind of fell off that tradition as he's gotten older because he does read on his own now. Um, so he reads after school. Um, he's really into like the dog man books. My daughter loves books. Uh, we went on a trip to Hawaii and we got her a little book. Um, and it's like the wheels on the bus, but like a beach version of it. She absolutely loved it. She carried that book everywhere with her to the point where it got ruined, which was so sad. But she also came in contact with the Easter Fun book, and she loved it. It's censoring it, it just it's so much that happens in their brain when they have something physical in front of them, even turning the pages, it creates um that sequence in their head, you know, the sequence of events. Um so I have been very adamant about having the physical books.

SPEAKER_00 7:37

I agree with Sav. We had instead of people bring a baby shower card to our baby shower, we asked people to bring books. And they wrote little notes in the book in place of writing on a card. Here's a little fun fact: reading to your child is profoundly important. We both know that. It acts as one of the most impactful low effort, high reward activities for development. Daily reading accelerates vocabulary, it boosts cognitive development, fosters empathy, enhances focus, and strengthens the parent-child bond, potentially exposing children to over one million more words by kindergarten. That alone should give parents just a big reason to want to make sure that you read to your children. We read to the kids still every single night, if allotted. There's nights if we get home late and they're just out of it, we won't read them a story. But for the most part, that's part of the bedtime routine. We're reading to the kids and they enjoy it. Our youngest is starting to follow along with his finger and point out the words. He's learning his letters now, and his favorite letter is W at the moment. Whenever he sees one, we all gotta, we all have to see it too. But that alone is showing how impactful reading and visually seeing those words. But you know, obviously, if you need an audiobook, we're not gonna knock that, especially for parents that are visually impaired or you know, whatever the case is. But if you can get your hand on a hard book, then by all means get that book. And even just going to the library.

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Like if you, you know, can't afford to buy books or you don't want a bunch of books in your home, that's okay. They have books for toddlers all the way to adult in the library. And you know, that's a whole nother experience in itself is going to a library, picking out a bug. It's sometimes exciting. They have activities there. So it's just an good experience overall. You build those memories and kids get those foundational skills that they need and to get them ready for school.

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And just to name a few books that are really popular and they've been popular since forever, and some facts, The Very Hungry Caterpillar. We all know that one, sold one copy every minute since 1969. The next book is Green Eggs and Ham. Dr. Seuss won a $50 bet that he couldn't write a book in 50 or fewer words. Clifford the big red dog was originally going to be named Tiny. Tiny the Big Red Dog. The irony, right? The tale of Peter Rabbit, rejected by publishers six times before Beatrix Potter self-published it. And the last thing I'll say is that board books, the sales have grown by 20% since 2013.

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Yay!

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I love board books.

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I love board books too.

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We have a lot of board books here. The kids have broken a couple of them because they get a little crazy trying to open them, but we taped them back together and made it work. Okay, the last, the last parenting hot topic that we'll be discussing is the overshare when it comes to social media and your children. And some of the just scary facts out there that I feel a lot of parents just don't even realize, especially with the direction that AI is going in, the direction that technology is going. I feel a lot of parents are just not educated on the placement that they could potentially be putting their children in when it comes to oversharing information. Roughly 80% of children have a digital footprint by the age of two. And what they call charanting can lead to identity theft risk or future privacy concerns for the child. It's super scary. One of the things that these poachers are doing is waiting for the first day of school picture with the sign. And we talked about that a few episodes back. Some of those boards have hit the child's school on there. And the the breach in that is now they have your child's name, they know what school they go to, they figure out what they know what grade they're in, and they can figure out passwords. And I think that the hype of social media is just that, and people have this high to want to overshare their family to get the views and the likes, not realizing that that could be detrimental to their kids' future. Unfortunately, I feel it's not gonna get any better. The way social media is moving and AI and parents just have to be more aware of their actions and be careful in that department. Unfortunately, it's so scary. So, with those hot topics, we hope that you got something out of that. Jumping into today's episode, we're going to talk about some parenting styles. So, did you two ever have a discussion about your parenting style before you got married?

SPEAKER_02 12:50

I don't I don't know so much about style. I know we have the conversation of like what we would want for our kids, trying to raise them to be responsible, good adults. Um, but as far as how we approach certain situations or all of our parenting situations, I I can't say we did. We kind of just gone through it. Um as I well, if we go through it as we go. You know what I mean. So yeah, that that's where we're at. So it's I feel like I'm the mean one. So we had a good cop, bad cop. Yes. But then we flip-flop too with that. Sometimes he could be like a little bit mean. Um, and then like I'm the nice one. It's we're a mixture between gentle parenting and traditional parenting. The way we talk to our kids and the way we handle discipline.

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That makes sense. I wonder if that's even a discussion. I imagine a lot of people don't have that discussion considering the amount of children that are just born and they don't even plan to create the child, right? My husband and I didn't necessarily have that discussion either. And we have been going with the flow. I feel that since I'm home with the kids a lot more, he respects the rules and the foundation that I built and piggybacks off of that. So we don't really have any like hard debates or discussions. If he obviously wants to step in and you know, parent your child. I do wonder, do you feel that maybe you two should have had that discussion before? Do you feel honestly no?

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Only because no one can predict what their kid is actually going to be like as far as their personality goes. So even if we would have had that conversation, that could have easily changed the second my son was born. There's no cookie-cutter way. You can have the best parenting skills. But if your child is a spawn of Satan, none of that's gonna work. I mean, there there are those kids who they act the way they do because there's something going on about people not being able to control their emotions or regulating their emotions. But then there's other kids who really are just like little monsters, and it's hopefully a phase that they're gonna grow out of, but there's nothing else that some parents can do. They're trying to find that approach and it's like, okay, this parenting style isn't working, this parenting style isn't working, you gotta get a professional. Then you hear the nonsense, these professionals say to you, and it's just like, oh, forget it, you know. So it it really just does depend on your child. So you could have that conversation, but there's a huge chance that you're gonna be like, what the hell was I even looking about? Because none of this applies to this particular child.

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Makes sense as to why the hospital doesn't give you a book when you leave when after you have a child, because figure your child out, figure out what works in your house dynamic, because I can't tell you how to raise your kid because every child has their own needs, and you're the only one that's gonna be with your child 24-7, and you have to figure out that child's needs, and you can't predict that. I know there are people out there that had conversations about how they want to approach parenting and their beliefs and what they want to do and go about, but that your child is birthed and they have other ideas, they have a different agenda at the end of the day, rolling with the punches.

SPEAKER_02 16:15

I think it's just more of a setup for failure, and you're gonna feel it more as the parent. I don't think it's a bad idea to discuss what your plans are or um your expectations, but you also as a parent need to learn how to be flexible because you could have had these amazing plans, but if your kid don't want it, it's not gonna happen.

SPEAKER_00 16:35

That's so true. Into the next topic, which is a routine trap. We talked about routines a few episodes back when you mentioned that having too many routines could hinder a child when it comes to downtime and them just they don't even know what to do with themselves because they're so used to a routine. So you mentioned allowing your child to be bored is okay, allowing their little brains to work and conjure up something fun to do. Now, outside of that, do you have a bedtime routine? How important are bedtime routines for you from childbirth to grade school?

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Um, so with my son, he uh he had really bad colic. We didn't sleep for a few years. Uh, we didn't get a routine. He did start sleeping on his own, like in his own little area, um, after about three years old. And it was read a book and then go to sleep. Now the routine is attending on sports and other stuff. We'll get them both in their pajamas and my son will go to his bed. My daughter, she made her own routine, and it actually kind of worked where it was didn't seem really forced. So play with her, and she'll play with her little dolls. She's ready, she just turns off the light and comes into bed. She asks to pray and she'll turn around and go to sleep. So, and it's nice, it's like a no-brainer at this point.

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Like, that's great. That's so good. With this conversation that we are having, please, if you're listening, do what works for your household. If you are struggling and looking for different tactics, then by all means, try what we're saying. I lead a completely different life. We we have a whole routine, we do bedtime, we read books, they pray, they go to sleep. But the youngest, if he's ready for a nap or if he wants to go to bed, he'll let us know if we're taking too long. But I typically pick up on his cues. We go through the motions, we use sound machines, we use white noise for the kids. It seems so quiet and scary in there. I'm just like, they can hear everything in there. So being able to drown the noise out so they can find peace. My oldest son, when he took naps at his kindergarten, they used like really chill music. And the sound machine that we have, we let him pick out his music. So he picks out this like yoga, yoga, yoga style music. It's super chill and it works for him. The baby, we still use white noise. And honestly, we don't have a TV in our bedroom. We co sleep, and the white noise is comforting at this point. I think to all of us, too much silence is just that. Too much silence. I'm hearing crickets chirp. Having the white noise helps. Having that routine, the kids know, oh, we're taking a bath, we're brushing our teeth, we get a book, we read the book, we pray, I lay with the baby until he falls asleep. For all the parents out there that are still cuddling up with their baby, don't feel guilty. Do what works for your household. Do you another thing we will talk about is childcare. Did you have to look into childcare? Was that something that you investigated before? I at one point I did look.

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I know and I'm looking at reviews. I did do a tour. It didn't feel right. Uh we are very blessed that we have had family members watch over our kids. I think when I looked, it was more um like to be proactive in case the family situation did not work. Ask somebody you know and someone you trust, you know, hey, who watches your kids? We all need sitters at one point. Who who watches your kids, or where do you go, or do you know somebody? And usually people are pretty cool about giving information like that because as parents, we all know what a hassle that is. Do your research and go with your gut.

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Absolutely follow your gut. And if you are looking for day cares, and I know this is one of the questions that Josh asked us, start searching in the second trimester because they are a wait list that can literally be six to 12 months long. I have a friend who don't with that. It's tough out there, and so many parents have to work and don't have the flexibility or the financial stability to stay at home with their child. So make sure that you start as early as you can. But the second trimester is a great place to start. Communicate with your friends, communicate with your community and ask them what daycare they've used. Same thing with preschool. Most of the wait list requires a one-year lead time. So keep that in mind for those that are looking for preschools for their child or children. You need to start looking when they're run because looking at two is too late because that's around the preschool age. So keep that in mind. And we're gonna take a break because that was a lot. We just dumped on y'all. Sweet Jesus. So let's jump into our mid show game, sing to me, and let's lighten the mood a little bit with all this parenting talk we're doing. So we will have you start the game. Okay, all right.

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For those of you who are tuning in for the first time, this game is. Sing to me. I will ask Einish a question regarding song lyrics. And the goal is for her not only to answer the question, but to sing them back to me. And it'll take turns. Okay. So Ineish, because Jamotown Mondays inspired me. Here's your first song. And You Can't Hurry Love by the Supreme. Supremes. What did her mother say about the kind of game love is? Her mom is a good idea.

SPEAKER_00 22:28

I can't even think of how the I don't know. I can't think of even how the song goes. I can't think of the rhythm of it.

SPEAKER_01 22:33

It's a game of sort of song. You can't hurry in love. No, we just have to hurry.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah. Something in the story of my life. I mean, there's just so many songs, right, to choose from and my brain's just like shuffling all the okay. Anyway, okay. What is the only thing keeping Beyoncé on fire in her song Drunk in Love?

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I've been drinking.

SPEAKER_02 23:02

Wait, hey, repeat the question because I feel like I'm getting to it.

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What is the only thing keeping Beyonce on fire in her song Drunk in Love? Your love. Okay. Your love.

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Okay, we be honor. I'm never tired. Never tired. I've been sipping. That's the only thing that's keeping me on fire. Me on fire. My gosh.

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And then after that part, right? I've been drinking. Yeah, I've been drinking. So close yet so far. Dang it. So sipping is the answer. In science still delivered, what type of things did he do that he really didn't mean?

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That song instantly jumped in my head. I don't know. I ain't gonna hold you. I don't know.

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Lot of four things that I really didn't mean. Oh, I'm saying I say get all off key and everything, but it's foolish things. Foolish things.

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Fun fact about that song is that's a song that we walked out of on our wedding day after we jumped the broom. They were playing that song. That was drunken love. Also I didn't know the lyrics. Okay. Maybe you'll know this one. What time was Frankie J struggling to sleep in the song Obsession? I can hear his voice, but I don't think I'm hearing the right song.

SPEAKER_01 24:30

So I felt the part of your first question.

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Okay.

SPEAKER_01 24:34

Don't want to try, don't wanna try.

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That's not the same song. Dang it. Sucks when you get a song stuck in your head. It's the same voice that you're trying to hear.

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What time was Frankie J struggling to sleep in the song Obsession? 12 o'clock.

SPEAKER_01 24:49

Well, it's five o'clock in a morning. Oh my gosh.

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I thought five. Or I still can't. But I'm like, that's too late. Or too early, I guess. Go to sleep, right? Oh my god, I really did think five. Oh, I should have just went first. I should have said it. I had just to see your face if I would have said that.

SPEAKER_00 25:07

Dang it. Okay. I've never lost five. Wow, that was a tie. I know. Welcome to the club. It doesn't feel good to me.

SPEAKER_01 25:14

It doesn't.

SPEAKER_00 25:16

Well, that wasn't how I thought this game would go, ladies and gentlemen. This is a first in pouring in parenting history when it comes to sing for me.

SPEAKER_02 25:25

We failed that some other names too.

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I wonder if our listeners knew the answers. If you don't already follow us, please follow us on Instagram at pouring in parenting. We post a lot of fun videos. So don't be afraid to follow us. Go find us on TikTok as well. Everything is pouring in parenting. You'll see our logo. There you go. Look for logo. Click that follow button. We're gonna go right back into our parenting topics and talk about some TV stuff. I feel there's a very high percentage with technology being so prevalent as it is. But some good TV shows are out there. Everything doesn't have to be so bad. I do know there are a lot of parents out there that are anti-TV, they don't have TVs in our household. There are Amish people out there, regular people that do not allow electronics, but we both allow electronics in our household. So still, since we are both electronic users, let's talk about some TV shows that you can recommend, that you like, that helped you parent and helped your kids.

SPEAKER_02 26:28

So after about the age of one for both of my children, I turned them around and they were able to finally watch TV. They were able to hear it for a long time, but after the age of one, they were both able to actually watch it. I started off with movies. Both of my kids actually crazy because they're about six years apart. Fell in love with Moana and Coco. My daughter has a speech delay. And I really do think that watching these movies, especially Moana, helped her because she sings along and it is getting clearer and clearer. And she doesn't even need to watch it anymore. She just runs around the house singing these Moana songs. And I love it. I love to hear her voice, the words just becoming more and more clear. Other than movies, my son really got into number blocks. And I I personally was just like, why are you watching this? But whatever. It's it's about numbers. And it really did teach him really good number sense. And if your child struggles in math, it could be because they do not have good number sense, and number blocks will teach them that. It just captivates the child um in such a good way, a positive way. Um, my son, he's really good at math. He got all of that from number blocks. They do have an ABC one. I didn't find it as effective, but I mean that might also work as well. Bubble Guppies was a big one. With my daughter and her speech delay, actually, having that screen time has really helped her. On top of the other interventions that we're doing, the TV, the music, and all that has really helped her develop her speech. So it's not all bad when they get the screen time.

SPEAKER_00 28:15

Mickey Mouse Clubhouse, it's really bright and colorful. They sing, they're learning. They have Miss Rachel. I feel low stimulation because it's her, it's almost like having a therapist in your home, but on a TV screen. I do appreciate that in her titles, she does list the age range that she is targeting for that specific episode. There are there are so many different shows out there that you can try to sift through and figure out what works for your child. But the biggest thing is just making sure that you are physically being active with your baby and singing the songs to baby. Cocon is big. They also have Gracie's Corner. Those two in particular, they sing songs, songs that are typical nursery songs, and then they have their own version of the songs. Do your research on those two because there is definitely a lot of negativity around cocoa melon in particular.

SPEAKER_02 29:23

But I don't get why.

SPEAKER_00 29:25

That's up to you.

SPEAKER_02 29:26

Like I have been stuck watching Coco Melon for the longest. I don't think I've seen something that is like, oh, I can't let my kid watch this. And I it's like it's nursery rhiz. I don't get it.

SPEAKER_00 29:38

It's you know to each their own to each their own. So again, do your research on that. Our kids are just fine. My kids are a little different. They're watching Harlem Globetrotter highlights and sport highlights, even the baby. Learn your child. I have boys, and they're that aggressively into sports. To our listeners out there, we hope that what you're taking from the conversation today is just another route of advice. The last things that we will talk about will be toys for babies and toddlers. And are there any toys still that you use for your kids?

SPEAKER_02 30:18

We really have focused on getting the kids once they're in walking age, getting them outdoor toys, getting them stuff that's gonna get them moving. They both really like building blocks as babies.

SPEAKER_00 30:30

So we had a lot of blocks for them to build stuff and just stacking. Kids like to stack stuff and watch it fall down, and or they get upset. It's one or the other. They're gonna be mad or do they want to see it tumble down? But but building blocks are really good for babies, dealing with that hand-eye coordination and patience really. We have just noise-making toys as well. A lot of the toys that they make for babies are sensory toys, so you're making sure their ears are working, their eyes are working because their eyes have to move towards the toy that's making the noise. And you mentioned books earlier that has all the feeling, the touch. So many toys out there to choose from. They have fake remote controls. You got one that looks like the Roku controllers and keys, they have fake keys out there for teething babies. Just you know, trial and error. Honestly, just go crazy with the baby shower list and see what you get and keep what you receive, especially as a young couple or even older couple. I would keep that and see what the child takes to. And if they don't take too much of anything, then go out and get your own toys to see what your child will latch on to. Keeping in mind when you do your searching specifically for the age range of your child will be detrimental to shopping for your child and making sure that you're keeping up with those milestones, meeting the milestones and talking to your pediatrician, making sure that you have a pediatrician that you trust. If you have family or friends out there that have kids already, talk about the pediatricians that they go to, perhaps any parenting clubs that they go to, library locations typically have little parenting clubs where you can meet and speak with other parents. I think that they would be okay if mom is pregnant and you're trying to join into the club before baby gets here. Just making yourself available, asking people to help you, give you the advice, choosing to see what fits for you and your family. You don't have to stick to anything if you have the free will to change your mind and switch to a different way of parenting. But keep that in mind. Do what works for you and your household, be open, talk to people, find your village, start building your village. And in any time, we do hope that the topics that we discussed helped our pores. We're going to wrap up that part of our show and ask anyone who has not seen Bridgerton, episode three, to exit Stage Left because we have spoilers and we are about to dive into our Bridgerton recap. In episode three, the beginning starts where episode two left off at, with Benedict and Sophie on a carriage traveling to London. Where did you think it was gonna go? Like, what are your thoughts?

SPEAKER_02 33:43

So I definitely thought that the carriage ride was going to last a little bit longer. And I was just like, really, he would have a cottage on the way to London, right? But it it was really cute though, how you know he was like struggling to get in his house and she like jumped the window or whatever she did, and she like opened her shirt, he had like a little lit candle thing, like wow. What the heck? Um so yes, I thought it was cute. Uh I was taken back by how injured he was. I didn't realize it was like that crucial or that bad. And Mr. Crabtree was fine, but I could not stand Mrs. Crabtree. She was such a nag um the entire time. And I get her reasons why, but at the same time, I was like, leave them alone. Like, let them do what they want to do.

SPEAKER_00 34:31

Yes, Mr. and Mrs. Crabtree are his personal maids that reside at his cottage, and they were all in his business. More so Mrs. Crabtree, like you stated, was definitely cock blocking, but in good reason, he mentioned that she was a maid, and so she was like, Okay, well, hold up then. You're gonna mess up her reputation by doing what you're doing, because she could see the vibes, and she was like, No, you play too much, and baby girl needs a job. We're gonna treat her as a guest, but also we respect what her job title is. So I I get where she was coming from, but same, but she just got in his head too much.

SPEAKER_02 35:12

I feel like the way he interpreted things from what she said, he just like went in another direction and then he pissed me off.

SPEAKER_00 35:20

Oh, yeah, he definitely did. So there's a maid's war going on, and the maid's war happened because of Sophie's stepmom, and her stepmom started snatching up other people's maids. But yes, Benedict's reaction to the conversation that he had with Mrs. Crabtree definitely changed his dynamic towards Sophie because prior to that, they were vibing. Like you mentioned, Benedict got injured towards the end of episode two. He got stabbed or cut really bad, and Mrs. Crabtree said, You are not traveling anywhere until you're 100% healed. And so they had to stay stay in the cottage several days, and they were vibing. And then he still couldn't figure out that that was his girl.

SPEAKER_02 36:10

How'd you feel about that? Okay, they end up having this kiss. And I really thought, oh, this is the moment. This is when he realizes that she's the one under the mask. And no, this idiot, even after time passed, even after the talk with Mrs. Crabtree, still it just did not click in his little man head that she was that that's his woman.

SPEAKER_00 36:36

So I was really disappointed in him. That's when Mrs. Crabtree realized that day that she had to say something to Benedict.

SPEAKER_02 36:46

Yeah, they both walked into the house with like a little you know smirk on their face. So I think she picked up like, oh, something happened out there.

SPEAKER_00 36:53

Let's talk about a couple other characters on the show. Eloise. I think that Eloise is next for Bridgerton.

SPEAKER_02 37:01

I think so. Have you thought about that? I really feel like she's going to be the spinster of the family. Like, I really don't think she wants to be in a relationship. Like she just shows no interest at all. She doesn't.

SPEAKER_00 37:14

And I think that makes for a good plot. Lady Agatha has a plan. Do you think she'll succeed?

SPEAKER_02 37:21

I think she will, but I also think that she'll change her mind. You don't think she's gonna leave? I don't think so. I think she might be ready to leave, but I don't think she ends up going.

SPEAKER_00 37:32

I think Lady Agatha is going to leave. I think that she's gonna make do on finding a new lady for the queen. And I think she's gonna piece her out at the last episode. Fertility trouble is what I initially took amongst the Bridgerton daughter, Francesca. As the show progressed, it seems that she was having trouble reaching her pinnacle. I found that hilarious.

SPEAKER_02 37:58

Were you thinking fertility or were you thinking fertile? Yes, I was thinking fertility as well when she was being so standoffish in the scene where they all met up for ice cream. And you could just tell she was uncomfortable, but also missing something.

SPEAKER_00 38:13

She hasn't reached her pinnacle. And the carriage moment or whistled down reached her pinnacle. Francesca has been asking around mom, sister-in-law, what that what what is she missing? How come she's not feeling that excitement that she sees on everyone else's faces? We're gonna be following, of course. What do you think will happen in episode four?

SPEAKER_02 38:36

She's supposed to be he's supposed to be helping her find a job. I think if he is in one attracted to her, he might try to keep her around. There is a a maid war going on. Um, so if someone possibly leaves like the bridge, like his mom's home, maybe she'll go and work there. I don't I don't know.

SPEAKER_00 38:57

What about the other family that at the end of the show?

SPEAKER_02 39:01

Would it or she can go there too? I mean, there's so many places she can go where he can still know where she's at, even like calling the Penelope. We'll see what happens. One more question is about Mama Bridgerton. Do you think she's gonna remarry? I don't know. She seems very worried about what her kids think. I think eventually they're definitely gonna get it in. They're gonna have this romance. I'm all about her and Lord Marcus getting a groove back.

SPEAKER_00 39:29

Yes, get your groove back, Mama Bridgerton. Do your thing, girl. The show ends how it started. Benedict and Sophie on route by carriage to London. Stay tuned with us as we continue to cover Bridgerton. We'll be covering episode four next week. We hope that you enjoyed this episode of Pouring and Parenting. Again, thank you, Josh, for your lovely email. We really appreciate you for listening to us. We send many blessings to you and your growing family. Thank you for listening from the UK. That's so crazy to us.

SPEAKER_02 40:06

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SPEAKER_00 40:20

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SPEAKER_02 40:44

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