SPEAKER_02 0:03

Grab your glass and pull up a chair. It's time for your favorite girls' night in.

SPEAKER_01 0:07

Welcome to Pouring in Parenting, where your besties, Syl and Ainish. We're here to laugh through the chaos. Hello, Poors. Let's start the show. Hi, and welcome to another episode of Pouring in Parenting. I'm Sill and I'm Anish. Thanks for joining us today. We are diving into some summertime fun. But for that, Einish, how is it going? It is full-on summer. How are you surviving the kids?

SPEAKER_02 0:29

You know, AC is pumping and we have a lot of water toys for the kids to play with in the yard. So that's always fun. Bubbles are great for the summertime. And just staying cool, the little kiddie pools, absolutely necessary for this weather.

SPEAKER_01 0:46

How are you surviving out there in Cali? You know, Cali weather. It is hot, hot, hot right now. Only gonna get hotter, but we are surviving. I mean, the kids, if they're not hungry, they're fighting. If they're not fighting, they're loving on each other or they're hungry again. So it's a lot of meat in the kitchen or just trying to run away. But we're surviving. We're there. A lot of water toys as well, pool time. I got a little kitty pool for the kids, mainly the baby. But I mean it'll work for both of them, I guess. The splash pads are good. The splash pad. We have a splash pad, so they're they're keeping cool. I love it. Gotta keep it cool. It's humid.

SPEAKER_02 1:29

Vitamin D indeed. Yes. Vitamin D or vitamin C. Well, I miss I miss that Cali weather because you know, the all these random states I'm moving to, there's a lot of humidity. And it's not as it's hot, but it's just humid and yuck. So yuck.

SPEAKER_01 1:45

Yuck. And nothing like that cali weather. I know. One day. Anywho, let's move into our drinks. What are you drinking today?

SPEAKER_02 1:52

Today I am drinking a margarita. It's a wine-based margarita from I know, from Gloria something. And I'm using a very special margarita to go cup, if you will, that a special someone gave me. And that special someone is you. It is me. Yay!

unknown 2:11

Yay!

SPEAKER_02 2:11

So how do you ask it? I love it. It's it looks like a mushroom, ladies and gentlemen. I'm gonna try to post it on some social media. So please make sure you're following us. And I'll do my best to post it frequently, but it comes with the lid. It's perfect for putting in your cup holder, in your chair, for kids' games. Put water in it, put whatever you want in it. You can't see through it. So that's that.

SPEAKER_01 2:36

But a margarita. I love it. Yay! So that cup was trending or mug, thermos, whatever we call it. It was trending on Amazon when I was looking to get you something. And I was like, oh my gosh. And I looked and I mean the reviews were great, but it was just like it, you know, it was at that time, it was um soccer season for your kid. And you were going to all those games. You're telling me about the moms drinking out there. I'm like, oh my gosh, this is so cute. Because there's an issue with some of these insulated mugs or cups, whatever they are, that they're too wide. And this one is meant to fit in that pocket, that cup holder. I mean, I don't know if it fits in the car cup holder. I haven't drunk it yet, but I mean, if it's water, it's fine, you know. Wink wink. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 3:19

Yes, I love it though. It's perfect.

SPEAKER_01 3:21

All right. Well, today I am drinking some Lambrusco. Okay. Nice big old glass of it. It's very hefty, I know. Yeah. Yeah. Like a hefty pour. Cheers. Right. Yes. Cheers. Think. All right. So let's go ahead and get into it. What like I said, we're diving into that summertime fun. We are days away from 4th of July. It is on a Saturday this year, guys. Super exciting. I know a lot of people have that Friday off too. Beautiful three-day weekend. Summer parties are in full swing, and we are going to discuss summer trends, 4th of July trends, party etiquette, and norms. So let's go ahead and get started with those hot topics and trends. Okay. So first off, I want to start with a PSA, public service announcement. Can we please, please, for the love of God, limit the fireworks to just maybe one to two days. Okay, so I don't know about where you live, but here where I live, the fireworks start and end weeks before and weeks after. Like, I don't know how people get their hands on so many fireworks. They're not cheap, but they are just blasting off at all hours of the middle of the day. First off, what a waste. No one can see them.

SPEAKER_00 4:37

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 4:38

I don't get that one. I really don't. Like, if you're blasting fireworks off in the middle of the day, can you please let us know why you do that? I'm very curious.

unknown 4:46

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 4:47

But it's just like all crazy hours of the night. Uh, please think of our veterans, our veterans with PTSD, animals, and the properties of others. There's so much dangers that come with. And I'm talking about those legal fireworks for the most part. Yeah. Let's be smart, guys. Okay. I'm pretty sure your money can go to better use. You don't have to, it's not a whole month, fourth of July month. Okay. It's a day. Yeah. Maybe two days. Okay. It's on a Saturday this year. Give you a pass. It's two days. Okay. But let's chill. Chill on the fireworks. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 5:20

All right. Just real quick, the dog situation. I know someone who has a dog and they have to turn their TV on to drown out the noise so they don't freak out. So it's so sad.

SPEAKER_01 5:31

Dogs get so the animals in general, they just get so scared. Like it's just all this boom and chaos. It's sometimes it feels like an earthquake or bombs are falling. It's not fun. But this year we are actually celebrating the 250th, 50th year of the Declaration of Independence. Therefore, this year's Fourth of July is being celebrated in a much bigger way. A lot of the trends this year are dominated by this huge milestone. America250.org is a website that is encouraging people to join the celebrations by giving contributions or donating, so paying it forward. Join in on America's block party by going to a local celebration or hosting your own party. So there's like a stuff online that you can like sign up for to host your own party. And I guess be acknowledged. They just want it to be a huge America 250 thing. Um so you can go to a spot that's already organizing it through America 250, or you can create your own, which I think seems pretty cool. I don't know the regulations for that. And then lastly, it's giving your time. So volunteering alongside people across the country to give back. So they just want it to be a huge day of celebration and giving, whether you're donating, paying it forward, volunteering your time, your services, or hosting your own celebration. You know, having a block party, inviting everyone at the block to celebrate with you. So it seems pretty fun, and I do like that. So if you're interested, take a look at america250.org for more information. But that is a huge trend this year.

SPEAKER_02 7:06

Oh, I like the way that sounds. Especially block parties. Block parties are so fun. I've been to one or two in New York, randomly enough. But um, yeah, I like it. I like it. The next trend is the style trend. We're talking 1776 aesthetic. Vintage designs are in high demand through custom printing or boutiques, rustic Americana, distress flags, and retro typography. So, piggybacking off of what Sill said, since it's the 250th celebration, people have come together and decided that they want to dress as if they were back in the 1776. And they're looking for these designs. It's in high demand right now, like I stated. Will you join into it? Sill, how are you feeling about these trends? I, you know, I don't even know what that looks like, quite frankly. I would have to see. Were my people free yet? I have a lot of questions. Yeah, you might not want to go back to 17. I may not want to just I don't think I want to go back to 76. So that's a slippery slope. Slippery slope, but the trend is active. And that's all I'm gonna speak on about that.

SPEAKER_01 8:19

That that got slightly awkward. Okay. Yeah, you know what? I have to look into it. I we are a few days away. Typically, I wear a uh 4th of July bathing suit and just basically keep it like that. This this year I am going to a family member's house. This year I'm doing something a little bit different, which will not require a bathing suit. So I do need to figure out what I'll be wearing. I do want something light and cool because it's gonna be hot. It's gonna be a long day. Um, but I will definitely look for something retro, something a little more rustic. So we'll see. I have, you know, a little bit of time. Maybe I'll like hit up a boutique, drift shop. There we go. A drift shop or a boutique or something and find something cute to wear.

SPEAKER_02 8:59

I love it. I don't know what we're gonna be doing out. We will be tapping into 1776, but we will be doing something. We're in a new state. So there's that. It'll probably just be us barbecuing and hanging out at the house.

SPEAKER_01 9:13

Hey, and that's good too. All right. Another trend for 4th of July is people are moving to a more safer and eco-friendly way to celebrate. Um, instead of using fireworks, blowing them off, and causing all this pollution, all this, all these harmful chemicals that go into the air. Uh, on top of it being unsafe at times, uh, people are moving towards using drones. So there's drone shows, they're using these like pyrotechnics type stuff, all this like high-tech things to make these shows and displays, which I've seen some stuff online. It does look really cool. I don't know if it has that like boom factor, like the fireworks do. But hey, you know what? I I've seen some crazy stuff go down on 4th of July. Side note, one year we were at a family member's house, and I know she's gonna hear this, but there were some really crazy fireworks going on in the block. Okay, there was a bunch of parties around, and a firework fell over and went into the neighbor's garage and lit and cinched off the neighbor's hair. Apparently, she had just gotten her hair done too. So, I mean, it was it was scary. It was scary for sure. I'm pretty sure they were freaking out, but yeah, but you know, they they paid for her hair to get redone. But I I would definitely, if I was that person, stay away, wear a hat, hide my hair, keep a fire extinguisher nearby. But I mean Wow. It's funny now it was it was a long time ago, but I still remember it. It was a little nuts.

SPEAKER_02 10:50

So that's a lot of nuts, actually. It's so many nuts. To hand someone a check or whatever and say, hey, go get your hair done again. I apologize for for the inconvenience. Wow. That's wow. That's almost like our tooth taken story that we talked about a few episodes ago. Yeah. Wow's moments. Holy guac. Okay. Yeah, people lose their hands every year. I feel there is a story every single year about someone losing their hand because of the illegal fireworks that they're utilizing and they hold it for too long or whatever the case is. Be safe, people. Be safe.

SPEAKER_01 11:29

Well, you know, even the little sparklers, yes, those are those scary. They're scary. They're just flicking away. Yeah. I would tell him I had this bright idea to bring some sparklers to a party where there was like seven kids, and like, oh, it'll be fine. You know, I had them all spread out. Before I know it, they're like running around, like, hey, you're supposed to stay in your spot. Like, and it just got crazy, and yep, there was flickering and burning, and I was like, okay, like you know, the drones are probably the most safest way to go for sure. Or just going to one of those like uh display places. Yeah. Sure. But even then, I've I've seen some crazy stuff go down there too. Be safe out there, of course. It is summertime. Now, mind you, Einish and I both have children, but life wasn't always like this. We didn't always have children. We were different people, especially come around summertime when we both lived in Cali. Einish, can you tell me what life was like for you summers before children?

SPEAKER_02 12:30

Just free. Free as a bird. I could extend expand my wings and fly to wherever I wanted to go. And we are both, you're a late summer baby, but we're summer babies. And we're talking birthday celebration. I used to just be outside, try to find an event to go to, didn't have to worry about a babysitter. And these aren't complaints. We're not complaining or no, this is a reflection. Yeah, we're reflecting. Yes, exactly. We're reflecting. But yes, just just having that freedom to to enjoy the day, enjoy family, enjoy friends, hang out. I know I remember going to your family's house and just laughing, listening to music, maybe hitting a bar or a club up afterwards, and just enjoying the day without having to worry about are the kids fit, are they asleep? And just being free. That to me, that's the biggest. I don't want to feel like I'm on shackles either. So if you if you're listening and you don't have any kids, but you'll be like, I want to stay free forever. That's not the case because it's definitely still fun with the kids. But yes. It's different now, for sure. It's definitely different. But there, I honestly, I have so many, there are so many thoughts running through my mind, and I really can't think of a specific event. Just barbecuing, drinking, hanging out, a lot of house parties, and maybe one or two, like nights out, honestly, like as far as the years goes, as far as like a fourth of July here or fourth of July there. But a lot of it is definitely family focused and barbecuing and drinking and just having a good time. That's it. That's that's my story, and I'm sticking to it.

SPEAKER_01 14:17

So, what is it like now? Yeah, so summer, so summer with kids. So there was a time when you were a mom of one, now you're a mom of two. What does that look like?

SPEAKER_02 14:28

Yeah, summer with the kids is honestly it's the same. Actually, it it honestly, it's probably it's more fulfilling. I will say summer with kids is more fulfilling because I can now see their, I can witness the joy that it's bringing them. I'm not into fireworks or anything like that. Honestly, I I can care less about the fireworks and all the lights and the razzle dazzle. But once we started having kids, I knew immediately, well, the kids are gonna like the lights and the razzle dazzle. So being able to take them and experience that joy with them and just see the twinkle in their eye and how it fascinates them brings me joy. So the joy that I necessarily didn't feel because I was looking for my next drink is more impactful for me. And they hold the sticks, the sparklers. Last year was scary. We stayed at my parents' house, my brother was there, very intimate, and my brother had a lot of fireworks, and their the cousins were hanging out, and just being at home with the handful of us was hands down plenty. It was plenty. I had my white claws, and that's all I needed. The kids loved it, they had the the things that you throw, the poppers. Oh, yeah, yeah. The kids had the poppers, they loved that. And my brother probably used a little sketchy, some sketchy fireworks, but they were just it, they were entertained. So I will say the difference between the two pre-kids and post-kids is the experience for me. Because again, I'm not into fireworks, but the kids love it. And you just at the end of the day, I feel like as parents, you want to see your kids smile and happy, you want to bring that joy to them. And they like it, I love it. And this year won't be any different. We're um we're gonna do what we can do to bring in. My husband is into doing the fireworks, stresses me out, honestly. It's a it has to be a guy thing.

SPEAKER_01 16:24

I think it's a guy thing. Yeah, you know, because the risk a lot of guys are gonna just get in there and play with fire.

SPEAKER_02 16:31

I was about to say, I feel like a lot of men are really into fire and they like little pyros. So maybe that's why I'm not that into it. And I'm like, okay, this is all great and fine and dandy. I'd rather go to SeaWorld living, you know, back in Cali, because Cali, they don't do that anymore. Boo SeaWorld!

SPEAKER_01 16:49

Oh gosh, you're such a hater. Okay, I'd I'd rather go. They are literally blowing fireworks right now.

SPEAKER_02 16:56

Already?

SPEAKER_01 16:58

It has to be. I'm assuming there's so many fireworks going off right now.

SPEAKER_02 17:02

As soon as you said that, I heard something. I heard a little boom, a little razzle-dazzle. Yeah, so at the end of the day, hanging out with the kids is a better experience for me as a parent versus my single-life life pre-kids. And I definitely appreciate the 4th of July a lot more because I get to see their little smiling faces. Awesome. What about you, Sil? How are you feeling? How what's your post-life? I know it was with me, but tell your side of the story.

SPEAKER_01 17:31

It was with you, but not always, because there was a lot of times where I spent time at the beach. So my cousin and I would wake up early on just like some random day, get up and drive out to the beach. We would, you know, it would be so random. Like we would go and it would like rain out there. And we'd be like, what the heck? And we'd like sleep in the car until you know it was still raining. And were you 15?

SPEAKER_00 17:58

I was old enough to drink, party. I'm old enough to party. The party. But yeah, no, we would go out there. Did you know me?

SPEAKER_02 18:08

I'm really confused right now.

SPEAKER_01 18:09

It might have been pre-Ineas. Okay, go ahead. Tell your story. Uh but we would go out there and we would take naps on the beach. We would, you know, just get our tan on. Oh, it was so great. Naps on the beach, guys, it is beautiful. If you've never taken a nap on the beach, please put it on your bucket list. It is the best thing. My co-worker the other day told me that she went out to the beach. Well, that she was gonna go out to the beach and um and go out there with her daughter. Her daughter's older, and they were gonna just hang out and nap at the beach. And I was like, it's been so long since I have done that. And I was telling my husband about it. I was like, that sounds so good. And I'm like, why can't I do that now? And he's like, because we have kids who we need to keep safe when we're at the beach. I was like, oh yeah. Well, that's why I can't take a nap. The funny thing though is we went to the beach, was it early? I feel like it was not that long ago, but it had to be last year. Uh, when we went, we took my mom with me. Now, mind you, my mom, you know, her kids are grown. She took like a two-hour nap while we were there, like so peaceful. And I was like, we were all like in awe of her because there she is, just laid out under this umbrella, hearing the waves in her sleep, I'm sure. Just not a care in the world.

unknown 19:34

Right?

SPEAKER_01 19:34

Just dreaming that she's riding on the waves. And I'm like, oh my gosh. So that is something that I really do miss and I can't do now. But I do know that in the future I will be like my mother and I will nap on the beach again. Yes, ma'am, you will. Yes. Oh my gosh. It is the best. Please put that on your bucket list if you have never taken a nap on the beach. It is the best nap of your life, I promise. But other than that, summers were really similar to like what you said barbecues, uh, hanging out. Um, my family, my Hispanic family, they uh they're really into well, they were really into like horseshoes and stuff like that. So I remember always being at someone's house or at a park or some tournament where they're playing horseshoes. There's Carnesada, there's oldies and Motown playing and all this stuff and good just really good times, parties at the house. And then of course, as I got older, like the day clubs, uh the clubs near the beach or the bars, all that stuff was really fun. But now, now that I have my two little ones, we do try to keep busy during the summer. Um, luckily, I have a job where I'm off during the summer. So we get to plan things start even in the middle of the week, which is nice because you avoid those crowds. So we do like hitting up the beach still. It is a lot more hectic and not as relaxing as it used to be. But you know what? Seeing my kids have fun, it it does make it worth it. It is, it does make it fulfilling. There's more of a purpose now. Before I did whatever just because I could, but now it's more like it, there's more meaning behind it. I, you know, you know, I like to take him to play with his cousins, we go to the pools. I I feel like this summer is gonna be more of like you know, like the movie Sandlot, just because the kids around the neighborhood play together so much now and they're all into baseball. So I really feel like that's the type of summer my son is gonna have. It's like a sandlot summer, which I'm totally about. It is, you know, and then uh my daughter now has a little friend down the street. So we're trying to do those play dates and have them, you know, just play in the pool, you know, socialize. So yeah, it's it's definitely different, but like we said, it's it's fulfilling, it's fun, and it's not gonna last forever, right? These years have flown by. I have a nine year old now where I'm like, How are you nine? And a three year old I feel like I was just pregnant with you. So it really does fly by. Anish, do you have any summer plans, like maybe end of the summer plans or anything that you're looking forward to?

SPEAKER_02 22:06

So I'm so glad that you asked that question. My family and I just made a really big move. We are officially out of Texas. We are in Iowa. And as the summer comes to an end, my husband gifted me a gift on Mother's Day, actually. And I will be going to the Chris Brown and Usher concert tour. They've been touring already. It's begun. And I'm excited to have my turn with my girlfriends, a couple of my girlfriends. But yeah, so I'm really excited to go to the concert. And maybe I'll go live. Maybe I'll go live on pouring and parenting. And stay tuned. The concert is the beginning of September. And so yes, I'm very excited to do that. I'm excited. Hey, and message us for any of you listeners that are going to be going to the Chris Brown Usher concert. DM us, hit us up. If you're not a scary person, maybe I'll tell you where I'll be at and when I'm going. And we can link up if you want to meet in person or something. I don't know. But no, DM us, hit us up on social media, Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, pouring and parenting, and let us know that you're going.

unknown 23:21

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 23:22

So what about you? I'm so excited.

SPEAKER_01 23:26

Yeah, actually, um, I do I am ending the summer with the Bing Bing as well. So I will also be joining Ainish at the Chris Brown and Usher concert. I bought my ticket moments ago. I will be joining Ainish.

SPEAKER_02 23:46

No, you didn't.

SPEAKER_01 23:47

I sure did, ma'am.

SPEAKER_02 23:48

I'm gonna cry. No, you didn't.

SPEAKER_01 23:50

Your order is confirmed. September. I'm gonna cry. September 5th. I will not say the section out loud because that's Are you serious? No, you're it keeps freezing. Why does it keep freezing? Are you serious? Yes, so pores. You might see us both live out there. Guys! I'm so serious.

SPEAKER_00 24:09

No, you're not.

SPEAKER_01 24:10

I'm I could send you a screenshot if you want.

SPEAKER_02 24:13

No, you're not. I swear you're not serious.

SPEAKER_01 24:16

Are you serious right now? I'm so serious. I just sent you my screenshot. I thought you would have jumped out of your seat. I think you're gonna cry. You make fun of me all the time for crying. This is a good or bad thing, but yeah. I'm so happy.

SPEAKER_02 24:28

These are so happy. I understand. Is my phone restarting? Don't restart right now. I am literally as happy. This is like the happiest you'll ever see me, honestly.

SPEAKER_01 24:36

I'm just like really shocked. I know. This is for hopefully making up for all those times that I was rude. Oh my gosh. It's going down.

SPEAKER_02 24:46

I can't even handle it right now. I have I need time to just I need it to marinate. I really needed to marinate. Like I hear you. I know it's gonna happen, but I needed to marinate. So the best surprise that a bestie can give another bestie is showing up someplace that you did not expect them to show up to. So so my heart is so full.

SPEAKER_01 25:09

Yay! So that was my surprise. And like I said, I wasn't sure if I was gonna tell you, but I also thought, like, I can't freaking hold it in that long. Like, that's just way too long. But I had already buyed a ticket before I was gone.

SPEAKER_02 25:23

Yes, yes. I would have been so mad if you wouldn't have told me. Because yes, we can plan now, we can outfit, mat coordinate, we can coordinate our outfits and do all the fun stuff that people do. Yep, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 25:35

So, and that's Labor Day weekend, which I realized I was like, of all the weekends, it's Labor Day weekend. But it's fine. It's fine. That's how we end summer. Hey, you know, taking it back to pre-kids.

SPEAKER_02 25:48

No kids, no husbands. It's gonna be just a bunch of moms and wives hanging out and just letting loose. We are on call 24-7. And for all the mamas listening out there, for all the women that want to be moms, whoever's listening, just remember to pour into yourself, to take time for yourself and get away when you can. If there's an opportunity that's presenting itself and you haven't had that moment to escape, take it. Take the moment, escape, and feel no guilt. If you are, and we've talked about this on episodes in the past, but embrace the just celebrate yourself. Embrace the joys of being a parent while away from your kids. And know that you're a good mom and that you're you're doing everything that you can do, and you deserve some time away. Mm-hmm. Yes, very well said.

SPEAKER_01 26:40

All right, and with that note, let's go ahead and move on to our sing to me section, which I am sure Anish is so ready to sing right now. We'll see. Okay, Arna, Arna. Okay. All right, for those of you who have been tuning in, you know how this works. For those of you who have not and are new to our show, we are doing our sing to me segment where I will ask Anish a question based on song lyrics, and she needs to not only answer it correctly, but sing it back to me. Now, after she does that, then she'll ask me a question, and we'll do two rounds of that and see who wins. So let's go ahead and get started. Anish, are you ready? Sure. All right, so what will Lumi D do if you want her to stay? So do Lumi D. So in topic with our summer theme, Lumi D's song was a summer hit in 2003.

SPEAKER_00 27:39

That's not if you want me to stay. If you want me to stay.

SPEAKER_02 27:50

I'm like right there. What is what did she say to make him stay?

SPEAKER_01 27:54

If you want me, what do you gotta say, sir? Okay, listen to the question. Okay, yes, here we are. What will she do if you want her to stay? You've said it. Now just sing it.

SPEAKER_00 28:03

So it's on a if you want me to stay, I'll never leave. Is that it? I'll never leave. Yeah. Sweet Jesus. Okay, I was so scared. I'd be overthinking. I was like, girl, sing it. You said it, now sing it. Okay, yay. Okay, I think she got it.

SPEAKER_02 28:21

Woo man, I got scared. I got scared too. Sweet mother of Pearl. Pearl is right. Okay. Bruno Mars talking to the moon. How does Bruno Mars feel? How does he feel?

SPEAKER_00 28:53

Like I'm famous. The talk of the town. There it is. There it is.

SPEAKER_01 29:07

I was like, I know he says it. I'm like, where's it? I gotta find it. And I was like, is that a weird way to ask the question? I'm like, eh. I just gotta find the word feel. Yeah. Okay. So back to another summer song. And Little Kim's the jump off. Where do you get dumped off? I'm back with the jump off.

SPEAKER_00 29:31

Dang, try to fate.

SPEAKER_02 29:32

I haven't heard that song in so long. Such a classic. Little Kim is and was that girl. Oh, little Kim.

unknown 29:43

Like I'm back with the jump off.

SPEAKER_02 29:44

Oh dang. I don't know. So where do you get dropped off? Probably somewhere in New York. Where they got no business being dropped off. Or you get dumped off. Dumped off. Or they dump you. Oh man. Oh, that's such a good question, honestly. That's I I don't know. And I'm sad that I I haven't heard that song in so long. But like I can see, I can see the video. I can see little Kim. I can hear the rhythms. Yes. Like the nostalgia in that question is insane. I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 30:19

I don't know. I got nothing. In the graveyard, it's where you get dumped off. All we want to do is party and buy everybody at the bar Bacardi. Black party. Black Barbie dressed in Bugari. Try to delay even somebody's Ferrari. Spread love. That's what a real mob do. Just keep going.

SPEAKER_02 30:38

Such a classic.

SPEAKER_01 30:40

Oh. Classic summer song.

SPEAKER_02 30:42

All respect. Anyway, I digress. Let's move on. That was a really good question. And honestly, I will say that I don't, I can't, and I don't listen to that, to that type of music. I sound like I sound like a mom. But in my throwback Thursdays, everything's, you know, PG 13 and Little Kim had a potty mouth, but we liked it. So I don't get the opportunity to really listen to those explicit songs. Oh, that took me back. Okay, alright, alright. Enough of that simpy stuff today. Not need to be a good one. Get out of here, simp simpy simp. Okay, oh, okay. Dusty Child's bills, bills, bills. Where was he always going? Okay, where where's he always going?

SPEAKER_01 31:29

To her for money?

SPEAKER_00 31:30

That's what it is. Dun dun dun dun dun dun dun dun dun dun.

SPEAKER_02 31:35

I remember that music video irritated my soul. I don't know if any of you other millennials, are we millennials, seen that video? Oh my gosh, I was I just I was disgusted. I was waiting, and then that's what they gave me.

SPEAKER_00 31:48

First we started out cook. Taking me places I never have been. But now you're getting comfortable. Doing things down on my soul, making me pay for things in money, should be killed me. And I have to use my car.

SPEAKER_02 32:09

Alright, I'm putting the countdown on five.

SPEAKER_01 32:12

Four. Three. I don't know. I'll be here trying the whole song. Dang it! I know the song.

SPEAKER_02 32:21

You do know the song, ma'am. You you gracefully sing that whole chorus. But to answer the question, where was he always going? Haven't paid, haven't paid the first bill, but you're steady heading to the mall. Going to the show. Who would said perpetrating? Who puts perpetrating in a song?

SPEAKER_01 32:43

Dang it. Yeah, I definitely did.

SPEAKER_02 32:44

You were so close. You had the first verse. That was the second verse. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 32:48

Well, you made me run out of time. You would have got there. You would have got there. Okay, one in one. Hey, good songs though. All right, and moving on to our next segment. Let's discuss party etiquette. Okay, so it's summertime, aka party time, but do we all act accordingly? Let's see. So earlier today I read upon, I stumbled upon this video on I was Instagram or TikTok, where there's one parent asking the other for their credit card because they are at an amusement park and they're at the amusement park for a child's birthday, not their own. And so she's asking for money to pay for the tickets. And he's like, wait a minute, what? What do you mean? I thought we were here for a kid's party. Well, yeah, we are, but we gotta get inside. And so it's like a whole and it could be a skid, but at the end of the day, it's definitely something that we can relate to. We get invited to something that has an admission fee, has some type of costs that go along with it. Who is responsible for paying said fee? Was it the host or the attendee? What do you think, Ainish?

SPEAKER_02 33:58

I think it depends on the location. Did you mention where were they going? It was a Disney would you say?

SPEAKER_01 34:05

So this particular video was not Spray Farm. Okay, not Spray Farm. So it's an amusement park here in Southern California.

SPEAKER_02 34:11

So even not Spray Farm, because it's definitely not up there with Disney or the other amusement park locations out there. I, for one, feel it's I will say it's a case by case. If it's a trampoline park, Chuck E. Cheese, I feel that the host should cover the fee. But an amusement park can definitely get pricey. There are packages included in those two locations that I mentioned: a trampoline park and Chuck E. Cheese. There are packages where including food. There's a separate space. Typically, there's a slot, there's a time slot for everyone to enjoy their time. An amusement park is there are they're asking for more money. You have to feed yourself there or bring food, depending on if they allow you to bring food, which they typically do, but everything's elevated. The pricing at amusement parks are elevated. So I think that if that skit or not, to put it out there for the people to see, I think brings a bad taste for her, honestly, because if you knew that you had to pay for your entry to Not Spray Farm, then share that with your husband. Don't keep that a secret and wait until you get there because now you put him in the mind, if he's the one managing the money. Right. Why put your partner in a situation like that? Because that's messing with y'all's money. And making sure you're having the discussion with your partner. And I feel the host has a responsibility to make sure that it's very clear on the invitation to state, well, we welcome you to Chuck E. Cheese, food and drinks provided, or whatever the case is. I feel that the responsibility lies on the host to make sure that it's clear that we're taking care of it or we're not taking care of it. And honestly, I will also state that the expectation that people are paying for it is high because I can also state that I've no people aren't saying, hey, we're paying for everything. So just come as you are. They don't put that on an invitation. But I will say that if you do need to pay for something, to me, that's when people will typically say something. And I hope that as a host, you make that distinguish difference between the two. All of the parties that we've hosted, we've paid for everything. We usually do it at the house. I know so that you have a lot of parties, if not all your parties at the house. So people are coming, they're expecting to eat, they're expecting to have a good time if you're having it in the middle of the day. But I have been to parties that are at different locations: trampoline parks, cookie cheese, the two locations that I stated. If I felt any confusion, I asked the host, hey, I noticed it's at a trampoline park. Are we gonna need to pay for our entry there? Open your mouth, close mouths, don't get fed. If you are by any means confused, ask the question. I to answer your question in lamest terms. I feel the responsibility falls on, I guess just both parties. Don't expect anything from anyone. Ask questions. If you feel a certain way about something, ask a question. If you feel your invitation is confusing, put in fine print on the invitation and communicate with your partner because girl, that's crazy. Don't go to Not Spring Farm knowing that you don't have an entryway in and then turn to your provider and say, hey, off up the money so we can get in.

SPEAKER_01 37:32

Right.

SPEAKER_02 37:32

That's not fair to anyone.

SPEAKER_01 37:34

What about you, so how do you feel? So you know what? The first thing I did was go to the comments, right? And don't we all at this point? Go to the comments. And as I was scrolling, there were so many people that were on his side feeling that the host should be paying for their entry fee. And I was surprised because I'm like, that that's a hefty bill there. You know, it's definitely a lot. It's gonna stack up, like you might as well have had had a birthday party at the house. And there was one person who I'm like, this person must have money. Like, you know, it's I mean, your economic situation also does matter here. So one person said that they took like 10 kids plus their own kid to Disneyland and paid for everything. Okay, good for you. I would never, I barely want to take my own kids, you know?

SPEAKER_02 38:23

Like, and I haven't even went yet with the kids, so right.

SPEAKER_01 38:26

Like that that's not cheap. So I think it it could depend on your economic status. If you have the money, if you're like a millionaire and you're asking people to pay for their own uh entry fee to like not very far, that might be a little rude. But I was looking at the comments and I'm just like, like, you know what, it it's hard because like I said, it maybe it could depend on your economic status. But at the same time, also, like, even if you do have like if you're well off, like maybe people should pay. Like if you know you're going somewhere expensive. But then it's like, where where do you have those boundaries? Because you said, okay, if you go to Chuck E. Cheese, you would expect the host to take care of everything. But if you're going to Disneyland or not very farm, you know, wherever the case is, then the attendees should take care of their expenses. So where does that line go? And then it let's bring it up a notch. Okay, we were talking about kids. What about adults? So you and I like to celebrate our birthdays, okay? Like we sell our summer babies. But if I have a birthday party, okay, typically no one's paying for anything unless they want to bring like a specific drink that they want to drink. But I got it. But if I turn around, like, you know what, I want to go to dinner for my birthday, I want you all here, which, like, for example, last year I had my family go to El Torito. Should I cover the bill because I invited them there? Because I would have paid for all the costs for my birthday party, right? But then it's like, why would it be a birthday? But flipping it around, it's like, okay, well, I do pay for all my birthday stuff.

SPEAKER_02 39:51

That's a controlled environment. You're controlling the narrative. So a birthday party at your house is a controlled environment. You are paying for the food. You know exactly, hey, this is I'm having 80 people coming. How much is it gonna cost for 80 people? And they're all gonna eat the same thing. That's the fixed rate. So having something at your house is a fixed rate. You go to a restaurant, you can't, you could tell people, and honestly, maybe you can create a menu. So there's that option too. You can create a special menu and do that. But more times than not, people, I have seen that done, but more times than not, I feel people are not going into El Torito and saying, hey, create this special menu for me, and this is where we're coming, even though that's a thing. So that could be a space that you could have tapped into as well. But I think a lot of people go to restaurants and they're not thinking that deep into it. So, no, we're having 30 separate bills and this is what it is. This is what it is. But if you come to my house, I will cater to you at my home because this is my domain. I see what you mean. And I can control the environment and exactly what I'm fishing out.

SPEAKER_01 40:58

Okay. All right. So I feel like we still haven't gotten to like those boundaries. So I I think maybe for some of especially when it has to do with children, just be specific in your invitation. If if I'm saying, I need you know what, I'm taking the kids to knotts for their birthday, you're invited to come, but you gotta pay for your own ticket. Like we're or meet, you can meet us there. You know, saying like meet us there or whatever, and that's like, okay, I'm not paying for you. Okay, or just be specific. Like, you got to come, like it's an invitation to be there with us at this public place, but I'm not like paying for you guys to come in, you know. And as awkward as it seems, it'd be even more awkward to get there and you're like, okay, where's our tickets? And that's what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_02 41:38

Who it get get over the awkwardness? Who cares? Tell these people from jump what it is. My brother is having a birthday party. I created the invitations for him. His birthday is in August, and he's hosting dinner, but for specific people, he's not every he's not inviting everyone to dinner. And after dinner, there's dancing. So he allotted a budget for himself, and I can pay for 35 people to come to dinner. So, sister, create these invitations for me, and then create another invitation for the people that can come and drink and dance. Cool. He's paying for the dinner for those 30 people, and on the invitation, it states dinner will be provided. Drinks are not provided. You could come there, you can eat, and then you feel free to dance with the DJ, with the DJ afterwards. It's that simple. Interesting. Just articulate that and and go on about your life. Like, why keep it to yourself? Why keep it a secret? If you know you can't afford to pay for everyone to get into Knotspray Farm, Chuck E. Cheese, even, or the trampoline part, pay yourself. Put it on the put it on the invitation. Don't set people up for failure and they go with the gift in hand, thinking that they have free entry, and it's not. I again, I've been to trampoline parties and every single time. And it's the same person, mind you, one of my friends, she has trampoline parties for her kids. And every year I ask her, girl, do I gotta pay? And she's like, No, everything's good. Okay, cool. And even if I did, I'm still going. But let me mentally know what I'm walking into.

SPEAKER_01 43:13

So let's go in to the next thing. So we talked about having to pay for stuff and like knowing ahead of time, right? Like, okay, you know what? I need to see what you're gonna have to pay for if you come with us to not jumbling park, whatever. But how do you feel about being when is it appropriate and when is it straight up tacky?

SPEAKER_02 43:30

It can get tacky really easy. BYOB for the 4th of July, kids' parties, and birthday parties. So just birthday parties in general. You're hosting it, it you're celebrating your child. This is the you want me to come celebrate you and your child. Fourth of July, it's a nationwide celebration. Everybody's doing it. I don't have to go there, I can celebrate in my own house. And so, since I'll go, let me bring what I want to drink. But it's your birthday and you want me to go over there. Tell me why I need to go over there. Convince me if it's Not at a restaurant or a place of entertaining, then yes, you, I feel you should provide this stuff. Now, if you're like, uh-uh, I want to bring my own, bring your own stuff. If you want to bring your own stuff and you have a certain drink that you just drink, by all means, do your own thing. But I would never, I don't think I have, and I've I've had a lot of parties. I don't say B Y O B. Bring yourself. Bring yourself. Show up, have a good time, hang out with me, celebrate me. Thank you for celebrating me. Here's your beverage. Thanks. So that's how I feel about that. I think it's tacky. Okay.

SPEAKER_01 44:32

I agree. I I agree. I think if you're having like a barbecue, something that's like, okay, we're gonna just come over, chill, barbecue is like a family thing. Okay, yes. In that case, I shouldn't be stuck paying for everything, but like you don't have to be here. Like it's just we're gonna gathering together because we want to be around each other. So, yes, bring what you want to drink, bring whatever you want to eat if that's the case, or help me out with like the garnessada if you want to like pitch in on that. Like that, I think that's fine. But when it's you're right, a birthday party, for example, when you're already, I guess, expected in a way to bring a gift, don't ask me to also bring my own drinks. Now, I will say there's been times where like somebody will ask me, Hey, do you want to bring anything? You don't have to. Like my brother, if he asks me, I will tell him. Absolutely. You can help me out with this, right? My mom, yes, you can help me out with this. 100%. Yeah. But but for the most part, you know, like I'll tell people, like, I I'll provide some alcohol or I'll provide some drinks. But if there's something specific you want to drink, bring what you want to drink. Like, I'm not gonna have a whole freaking liquor store here.

SPEAKER_02 45:33

Right. So if there's something like signature drinks, yeah. Like I do signature drinks. And if you don't like it, and okay, yeah, by all means bring your own drink.

SPEAKER_01 45:40

Yeah, and I think just even, and I don't know if this is everyone, but in part of a Hispanic family, and everyone just kind of like they know, like everyone comes with their 12th pack or their whatever pack or their drinks, and it and it's fine. But I'm not gonna ask you, hey, right, bring your own. Oh, I'm not gonna put it on the invitation. I will say I have, and now mind you, this is not for like big parties. This is for like when we've had like a barbecue. I will ask people well, I did, not anymore, because we've stepped it up a little bit, but I have asked people to bring their own chairs, like their own lawn chairs. Because, you know, mind you, this is more of an intimate, like family where like I don't care, you know, type thing. Whereas and everyone that I've asked, like they're people who like they spend half their life at the ballpark. So they you know they have one of those chairs in their car already. You know, bring it because I don't have a lot of chairs, and I'm not gonna rent chairs for like our 20-person barbecue, you know, whatever. So I have asked that. But mind you, I would never do that for like an actual birthday, like a big party or anything like that.

SPEAKER_02 46:42

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 46:42

At least not on purpose. But but that, like, okay, you know what? Shit happens. Like, or you could sit on the floor, whatever, but or sit on the ice chest, whatever the case might be, right? But like that was like the only time. However, I do know people who have put on their invitations, you know, for birthday parties, bring your own beer. They went as far as bring your own appetizer, bring and bring your own chair, which I'm like, wait a minute, wait a minute. Wow, whoa, yeah, pick a struggle. That's that's too many. Don't have the party then. Right. So that to me is tacky. Like, if you cannot afford and celebrate your kids. Okay, this isn't like trying to put anyone down, but if you cannot afford certain things, just don't have, or just don't have them as big. Just invite your kids' closest friends, closest cousins, whatever, and they're gonna be happy regardless. But you're asking people to bring all sorts of stuff on top of the present. It's not an either-or typing. Like straight up tacky.

SPEAKER_02 47:41

So tacky. That's a lot. That's a lot to ask for from a guest who you invited to celebrate your person. And BYOB, bring an appetizer and a chair, I can stay at home. I can eat at home. I can sit on my couch and eat my own food. I don't I don't want to get in the car and drive to you and have to take everything at my car like I'm going to a softball game for my child. So plan parties within your budget. Plan parties within your budget. And if you need, like you said, if you need to invite maybe just cousins or close friends in their class and have a really intimate party, that's okay because at the end of the day, the child's not going to remember the party, or they'll tell you, oh, I actually just want so and so and so and so and so and so to come to the party. I don't want my cousin, or I don't want that person to come to the party. Because at that point, like you said, who's the party for?

SPEAKER_01 48:35

Right. What do we do? You know, one of the tackiest things is that this person, this particular person who constantly was putting the these things on their invitations, they would end up keeping all of the drinks. And all and they had the audacity one time to exploit all the stuff they had left over. And it's like, oh, party time, round two. What? What? Like, I mean, it shit. Okay. I guess I could be tacky too, right?

SPEAKER_02 49:01

Listen, it's not okay. If you if you're listening to this and you are finding the hustle in that person's life, then do you. We're not here to shame anyone. But also, we're we're speaking etiquette. And we're not the clean, we don't have our pinky fingers up as we're drinking our beverages right now. Oh, still does.

SPEAKER_01 49:19

But JK, JK. JK.

SPEAKER_02 49:22

I'm drinking my brusco, okay?

SPEAKER_01 49:23

Calm down.

SPEAKER_02 49:24

JK, no, for real. But no, the proper etiquette, if you're hosting at your home and you're inviting people to come to you to celebrate you, you should provide like all the necessity to make your guests feel comfortable. Because to me, hosting is comfort. You want to show comfort to your friends and family and give them a place to relax. Instead of you don't have to go to the bar tonight. You don't have to go to the comedy show tonight. Come to my house and relax and enjoy the environment on my dime. I've paid for everything. You don't have to pull your wallet out and buy your girl a drink because I have the drinks already provided here. And everything's paid for, but I want to be in an environment with my friends and family. That to me is the perspective that one should have when they're hosting is that you want to create an environment and a just a safe space for your friends and family to be all together because that rarely happens for a lot of families out there. And take the worry off. Leave your kids at home. Bring your kids. I got a bounce house. Whatever the case is and whatever the party environment is for you, provide that security for your guest. Pay for it, take care of it, and plan. And I think the biggest thing too is planning. Make sure you plan ahead. You know when your birthday is, you know when your kid's birthday is. It's the same day every single year. Plan ahead. Take care of the vendors that you need to take care of. Make payment plans. That's talking for yourself. Make all the food yourself. That's it, right there. That's what I've been doing. Fighting for my life, doing it. We fight for our life preparing food for this party. Stress it out. Get a crock pot and get an Instapot. And make the food. We talked about the instant pot, instant with the tea pot. So definitely, definitely tacky. Get you a Sam's Club or Costco membership. Get all the alcohol there for the low. Shop around and take care of your guests. And don't use what they brought for you as the party. Just rub it in their face. Like, isn't that one beer on my party? Did I buy that beer?

SPEAKER_01 51:26

I only had one can, you know. Exactly. Yeah. Oh gosh. Yeah. Don't get me started. Okay. So is it proper etiquette to put what your kids' preferred toys are, their sizes or and or wish list on the imitation? Or is it too much? Are we doing too much by doing that? Is it just enough? Is it too?

SPEAKER_02 51:50

I want to tell me. Tell me, tell me, tell me. I love to gift. I want to gift your kids. I need an idea. I need an angle. I come with a gift in hand. You may say something and maybe I get something off the list. Don't judge me. Like, why do you want the list if you're getting something off the list? I honestly appreciate a list on an invitation. Now, granted, almost all the invitations I get do not have that list that I want. And so I will reach out to the parent. I don't care if I don't know you. I don't know how many parents I reached out to. I RSV, I will RSVP and in that same text, hey, what is little Suann like? So I can bring her a gift. I when I make my invitations, I put what he likes on there. And it's not in your face, it's it's in a corner somewhere. So hopefully they look at the whole invitation and I put a little note, hey, he's really into A, B, C, D, E. And that's it. Not that I'm expecting it. He's not expecting anything, but there are people out there that like to gift. And I feel a lot of people that go to parties almost feel, oh, I have to gift them something because they're gonna feed us and they're gonna entertain my kids for a couple of hours. So I don't think it's bad etiquette. I think it's amazing etiquette, and I wish more people would do it so I don't have to be sending all these extra words and these text messages and asking.

SPEAKER_01 53:09

So what's funny about that is so my kids' party was a while ago, like a month or so ago at this point. And I did on the invitation put their sizes and just a couple of things that they're into, like not everything, whatever, not like anything specific. But I still had so many people reaching out to me, asking me their sizes, what they're into. And I'm like, it's on the invitation.

SPEAKER_02 53:33

And then you have that, and I wonder if it has a lot to do with people that don't do it, and they see it. Oh, it starts at this time, this is for who? Now let me text the C. Because again, in Texas, a lot of the parents did not write what their kids were into, and all of them. My son got invited, Mr. Popular got invited to a lot of birthday parties. Oh my gosh. And no one had a list of what their child liked. And so I had to, hey, what is your kiddo into? I want to make sure that my son brings something to show their appreciation for the invitation to their party. And so I wonder if that might have been it.

SPEAKER_01 54:12

I'm trying to, I don't know. Who knows? But you know what? I do want to point out, and this is huge party etiquette, and I'm glad you have it. You for sure have it. RSVPing. Yes. My gosh. I hate to ask people like, hey, are you gonna come to the party or not? Because like I don't want to put that pressure. But at the same time, as the host, I also need to be prepared with the food. I hate to run out of food. Like, that's one of the things I I always overbuy. I always have a lot of extra food. But if you don't RSVP and tell me you're coming, like it it just makes it hard for me. Then I have to have that awkward conversation, or I just don't have like if I don't have time, like I don't have time. I'm just gonna assume you're not coming or assume you're coming and buy too much. And like it just sucks. And the thing is that a lot of people just do that thumbs up when they get the invitation. What does that mean? That just tells me you got it. Like that just tells me you received it. That does not tell me you're coming. The heart also, you loved my invitation. Cool. You you love all of it. But that does not tell me that you are making it to the party. I need to see the word those words. And if you're a family of a four or five, please tell me if you're all coming or not. Especially if like the kiddos are older, like you know, they might have you know things going on themselves, and that's fine. That's okay. But I need to know exactly who's coming because that had just helps me out. That way I don't have to buy as many tables, chairs, or buy more. And like that happened actually at my kids' party is that we like I didn't get all the RSVPs that I needed, and we were a little short on tables and chairs for a certain amount of time. And you know, my husband was like running around and stuff. I mean, we kind of figured out everything was fine, but it's like if you would have told me you were coming, you would have had somewhere to sit immediately. Immediately, you would have had to see.

SPEAKER_02 56:00

Yes, no, I I received an invitation a few months ago and immediately responded. I looked at it, read it, I knew I was available, immediately, immediately responded. And yes, my schedule appears to be open. Expect us to be there. That's all I wrote. And she gave me a heart and she messaged back and said, Great, can't wait to see you. And then I further I followed up because I re-looked at the invitation to make sure I didn't miss what the child wanted and realized it was not placed on there. And a few days before the party, hey, can't wait to see you on whatever day. What does little little man need for the party? Can't we? And she told me, boom, bing, bam.

SPEAKER_00 56:42

That's it. Done. Done.

unknown 56:44

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 56:44

A great party. Everyone had a good time. So it's it's just it's etiquette. Etiquette, etiquette, etiquette. The the highlight of the show is proper etiquette for for parties, especially for the summertime, all the summer babies out there for your kiddos. RSVP. It's so easy to send the text message. We will be there. And and honestly, I think the big thing too is my son received the invitation and it was early. It was a few weeks before the party. And I initially put it on the refrigerator, but my son was so hype about it, trying to feel oh, when is it? When did it happen? So I took it off because he was stressing me out. And I'm, I know it's a few weeks from now, sir. So get off my get off my back. And so I put it somewhere. But so thankfully he kept reminding me about it. So if you're feeling pressure in that regard, put it in your phone. As soon as you get the invitation, put it in your phone, put an alarm to go off four days or five days early so you can RSVP after you looked at your calendar, and just give that parent or those parents that extra alert so they don't have any extra pressure when you get there and no seats for you, or they ran out of food or something. Because you have your family of six popping up or four or whatever. So etiquette.

SPEAKER_01 58:00

RSVP. And last one, okay. Do you drink alcohol at a kid's party? Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes.

unknown 58:09

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 58:10

There's so much chaos going on. How do you stay sober? Now I'm not talking about go get drunk. Like I don't want you drunk and falling over around all the kids. Like, that's not that's all that's not proper etiquette. You hold it together. Okay. And someone needs to drive these kids home. So I'm figure out who's who's rocking.

SPEAKER_00 58:28

The DD.

SPEAKER_01 58:29

Okay. So we're gonna have a DD, especially because we are at a kids' party and you're driving your kids home, so we gotta be safe. But some people are so against, like, no, you don't have alcohol at a kids' party. Why not? Please put that in invitation so I can be mentally prepared.

unknown 58:43

Right.

SPEAKER_01 58:44

So I can bring my Stanley. I know alcohol. Let me bring my Stanley Stanley and don't be Yobi. You know, and then I still won't be Yobi secretly. Yes. But yeah, I I sa I came across on TikToks where people were just like going in, like it's tacky, it's ghetto, it's blah blah blah blah blah. Like it's ghetto house.

SPEAKER_02 59:04

If I have a bartender there that's dressed in a suit and tie, making your creations, well I mean I mean nobody's doing it.

SPEAKER_01 59:11

Right, yeah. I mean that's like wedding type stuff, quintaniera, whatever. But still we can make it cute. I'll just have an essay and tie and serve cloths. Here's your can. Uh yeah, like not that I need to drink all the time, but at a kid's party where I'm probably stressed out because it's a kid's party. Uh yeah, I would like a drink or two. I'm not trying to get drunk at your kids' party.

SPEAKER_00 59:37

Why are you why are you delegating that?

SPEAKER_02 59:39

Why are you I'm trying to figure out why are they so anti that?

SPEAKER_01 59:44

Because there's alcoholic example for the kids. And to kids, like, why do you need alcohol? It's a kids' party.

SPEAKER_02 59:50

They don't even care to see us anyway. Yeah. But we're not even we're not hanging out with the kids at the end of the day. If there's an activity happening, if it's at the house and people are coming to the house, everyone should be responsible enough. You rock, paper, scissors to figure out who's driving or not and who's the DD, and you know, figure that. And honestly, that's typically very apparent with all the parties that I've been to. Fuck, you're not driving tonight. And I don't the kids are in their zone. The kids are having a good time, they are playing amongst each other. If mom and dad already drink at the house, what's the difference between drinking at a party? They're not even focusing on that. Oh, are you drinking tonight, mom? What kid is asking that question?

SPEAKER_01 1:00:36

Yeah, a kid who's definitely not playing enough. Exactly. Get out of my business. We've grown over here. I know, like the second that we get to a party, my son, if there is a bounce house, he's gone. Like sometimes he'll just like run out the car and I don't see him until the end of the party. Like, or until he's hungry or whatever. But yeah, that's you uppity people.

unknown 1:00:58

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:00:59

I mean, even the uppitiest of the uppitiest. Right? Like, no one's talking about getting drunk. But you can have some drinks.

unknown 1:01:05

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:01:06

You don't gotta serve liquor. Right. Yeah. No one's talking about that.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:10

I'm not trying to be throwing shots back. Right. But some seltzerts or seltzerts or beer. It's something light. Take the edge off. Sandrina. Sand green. Right. Like a dent Disney raw appearance.

SPEAKER_00 1:01:24

We need to unwind. At least a little bit. Just at least.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:27

Just a little bit. So yeah, I think that uh I don't know. I don't think that that's alright. It's so judgy. I'm just thinking how judgy those um that comet is. That's such a judgy comment to say that it's tacky. And in what world? Like what party did you go to to make your mind think that?

SPEAKER_00 1:01:46

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:46

I mean like I said, tacky. I don't like that word.

SPEAKER_01 1:01:49

I'm Hispanic. I I've seen a lot of people get pretty tossed at kids' birthday parties. And I'm not saying that's okay either, but have a good time. As long as you're responsible, as long as your kids are taken care of, like it's none of your business. Right.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:07

Yeah. And as long as everything's properly labeled too. So if they made that comment, if that was the comment, oh, what if your kid opens up this and that? So making sure that everything's properly labeled and everything's accounted for. Right. Definitely separate, separate coolers. Don't leave any open containers around as a host or hostess, whatever the case is, pouring out the empty cans. If people walked away from a beer and know in the crowd, if it's a 16-year-old party, maybe lay off, maybe lay off on the drinks, and everyone's holding, you know, we gotta lock to get to a drink, and only the adults have it or the channel. That's the bartender or something.

SPEAKER_01 1:02:49

So that's to control the environment.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:53

But just control the environment. If you're having a party for kids, all the adults are just that. They're adults. They should already know how to properly drink and be responsible with their drinking. So to dictate their future by oh, you can't drink at this party because that's tacky. Do do what you want to do for your party. But we don't think it's tacky. We deal with majority responsible adults. We know some not so responsible adults, but yeah, just trust your crowd. Maybe her crowd is tacky. Get a new friend crowd. Girl, whoever said that. There was so many of them. That was sad. All those girls. Maybe they're all friends. Find a new friend crowd because we've had no issues. And again, DD, DD, D D.

SPEAKER_01 1:03:45

Right.

SPEAKER_02 1:03:45

Don't drink and drive.

SPEAKER_01 1:03:46

Or spend the night wherever you're at.

SPEAKER_02 1:03:48

Spend the night where you're at. There are a lot of options. Get a hotel, get an Uber, Uber Lyft, a ride share of some sort. If you know that you really want to turn up with your kids, or whatever the case is, but get a ride share. There are so many options. Carpool and make sure you make the right decisions. But again, we know who our friend group is, and we don't have to worry about that. And if they feel the need, I girl, I gotta stay the night. Stay the night.

SPEAKER_01 1:04:17

And we'll figure it out. I like sleepovers. Okay. All right, porous. That brings us to the end of our episode. Thank you so much for tuning in. I hope, we hope that you have a wonderful, safe 4th of July weekend. Have fun. Don't get too crazy with the fireworks. Enjoy family time. Enjoy alone time. Enjoy whatever it is that you're doing. So happy Fourth of July. Thank you once again for tuning in to Pouring and Parenting. Where sip happens and we pour about it.