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Grab your glass and pull up a chair. It's time for your favorite girls' night in. Welcome to Pouring and Parenting, where your besties, Sill and Ainish. We're here to laugh through the chaos. Hello, Poors. Let's start the show. Hi, and thank you for tuning in to another episode of Pouring in Parenting. I'm Sill. I'm Anish. Einish, how are you doing today? I'm doing all right. I am a little tired, but all for good reasons. So no complaints, actually. How are you doing? I am doing great. So I'm not necessarily tired, but I'm very relaxed. I had a massage earlier today. Um, it was my Mother's Day gift that I finally redeemed. And my gosh, was it worth it? I didn't realize how jacked up my body was. Like I had some knots. So I was like, whoa, how? Like, why am I like this? I don't know. Yeah, I need a massage. My head. Wait, don't we all? Oh my gosh. It was much needed, much appreciated. I can get one of those every day if I could. But yeah, so I am doing pretty good. So today we are gonna dive into some girl talk, some mom talk, and just some girl talking about life. So a little fun fact about Ainish and I is that we talk on the phone every single day. And we can easily talk for hours if allowed. But being that we're moms and we're just busy, we don't always get those hours in. Um, but Iish was kind of on a hiatus for the last few days, almost a week, really. So we really didn't get to talk. So today's episode is about kind of catching up. Um, so you'll be hearing our conversations and hopefully you can relate to what we got going on out here. It is full-blown summertime, so it's full of kids' stories and us just trying to hang in there. But before we dive in, um, Anisha, what is your drink for the day? My drink of today was very spur to the moment. I didn't realize how much I needed it, but it's a stiff drink. It's peach whiskey with ginger beer and a splash of lime juice. Okay, it is it's really good. I might gulp this thing down. I have to pace myself and keep it cute. So, what did you pour today? Today I opened, did not pour today, but I opened a white claw black cherry, my fave. Yummy. I'm so excited about it. It's been so hot and it just really hits the spot on these really hot summer days. I know I should be drinking water, and my massage therapist is probably gonna yell at me for not drinking water and getting all that stuff out like they say you should. But it's hot and I need it. So I'll drink water a little bit later today. Like yeah, that's that's what I got going on. And actually, hopefully this doesn't come back to butt me in the butt because I'm getting a facial tomorrow. And I don't know if you can drink for a facial. Is that a thing? I don't think it's a thing. Like, are are they poking your face with needles or anything? I hope not. Okay.

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No, I don't know.

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I feel that would be the only reason why they would allude to avoiding a drink, but if you're just getting a face massage, I don't think I know what I'm confusing it with. And I was just thinking about this earlier eyebrows. Yes, yes, eyebrows. So another fun fact, Anish and I hopefully you don't mind me saying, both have our eyebrows done. So we did like an ombre tattoo on our eyebrows. We actually both have very little to no eyebrows in real life. Like born that way. I it's it's something that we fought for for years. And when we first started hanging out, that was like one thing we like bonded over is that we both needed to fill in our eyebrows. And we found all these like magic, awesome things together.

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Yeah.

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But then finally, through a coworker, I found out about this tattoo artist. Um, I don't know if it's just considered a tattoo artist, but it's basically like tattooing your eyebrows, but it's like an ombre type thing. Um so they look natural, they look good. Yes, but you cannot drink, I think 24 hours before you go. So I think it's like getting a tattoo because of the extra bleeding or whatnot. So that's what I was confusing it with. And actually, um, just today when I was doing my makeup for today's episode, I was filling in my eyebrows and I was like, gosh, I need to go back and get them touched up. They're more grayish now than they are dark. And I'm like, it's time again. I need to have these eyebrows because I don't want to, I didn't want to do my makeup. Like, it's freaking hot. Yeah. I feel very confident when I have my eyebrows on and my lashes. Oh the lashes. Yeah, so we also were not blessed with long lashes, so we do have to put lashes on. Oh the freaking stuff we have to go through. I want to be a girl. Being a girl. It's tough work. I know. Well, let's cheers to that, shall we? Let's oh yes. Let's forgot about the cheers. Cheers. Dink. It is so good. I'm literally stopping myself from chugging this whole glass. Oh, yeah. Please don't. I don't need you falling over or slurring anything like that. Right. All right. So let's just do a quick summer status report. Aynish, can you describe the current state of your living room in a few words? My living room currently is a little bit of a disaster. We recently moved and unpacking, packing is it's not fun. There's nothing fun about moving. I don't mind the moves once we get there and all that fun stuff, but packing seriously just gives me the heebie jeebies. And so boxes and boxes and boxes is what my current living room status is. What is your living room status? And mine is colorful, messy, and probably a little buttery. That's interesting. Please tell us more. So the kids have been watching movies before bed, and they're eating, they eat popcorn. And it's the what the better, no, butter butter, butter lovers. Yes. I was saying better butter. Believe it's not butter. Can't believe it's not butter popcorn.

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Throw it in your face. Tomato, tomato.

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No, the butter lovers popcorn. Was it Act Two or something? The brand. Yeah, I think so. Is that what it is? Sounds right. I don't know. But yeah, so that's why I keep finding popcorn pieces and kernels between the couches on the floor and the on the rug and all that. So that's why I said butter. Okay. Smells buttery, it looks buttery. I gotta get those cushions washed. My goodness. But the kids are having a good old time. They are. They are catching up on their movie. So well, my daughter is really, because she we're gonna watch eventually. I know it's already out, uh, but Toy Story 5 out in theaters, and they want to take them to the drive-in to watch it, but I don't want there to be a lot of people. So uh and I want my daughter to like watch the other ones first. Yeah. So we are in the process of doing that. So hopefully maybe this weekend we'll go watch it. We'll see. Yes. But yeah, so with that being said, their go-to snack during moving time is popcorn. Yes. So all the popcorn on the floor. Have to. I love movie popcorn. Oh yeah. I love like putting it, pushing the little pump to add more butter. To add the extra butter. Yep. Yeah, the kids are so bad. The kids are catching up on Toy Story as well. So it needs to be done. Has to be done. Watch that fifth one. So I'm actually a little on yikes. Are we gonna really do that? They're calling out the writers, they're calling out the parents with the electronics. I know. You know, based on the based on the trailers. So yeah, I saw that. Yeah, technology's taking over, folks. Yes. Okay. All right. So currently, what is trending right now? And I andes, I don't know if you're into it or not, but it's the FIFA World Cup. So the final soccer match will be on July 19th, which is uh in about a week or so in East Rutherford, New Jersey. I'm not super into soccer like that. Like I love to watch my son play soccer, but to actually watch a match on uh TV just feels so boring. Oh it's just so boring. Like the field is so huge and like it's just like it's a necessary big, honestly. Like, who needs to be running so much? It just gets me exhausted. But anyways, anyways, back to FIFA. So real sorry, yeah. Go ahead. You asked me if I watched it, I'm not sure if you wanted me to answer, but I did, I just kept talking. How rude. I I'm not into it. It was on, and I'll talk about that a little later. But the last few weeks of school, my son had an assignment that all the children had, and it was for Mother's Day. And one of the Mother's Day gifts I received was questions that the teacher asked the students, and they had to fill in their answers. And one of the questions on that sheet was, What is your mom's favorite TV show? And he wrote FIFA. And I've he's he's literally never seen me watch soccer. I don't, I don't watch TV. It was taken aback and asked him, Why did you write that? And he was like, Yeah, soccer, right? Mom, he likes soccer. No. So so random. I think you know, maybe he was trying to, what's the word I'm looking for? Trying to like predict the dots or something. Like, oh, it's gonna be coming on soon. You did coach his team, so maybe he just feels like you are this like deep soccer fan that just doesn't get to watch TV. But if you did, that's exactly what you would be watching. That's what I would watch soccer match. That is a great correlation. I have been the soccer coach slash soccer mom for two soccer seasons for him. So you know what? That's actually that's a great thought. And let's go with that. That's probably exactly what he was thinking. So I like it. But he just feels like deep inside. If you could watch anything on TV at any given time, FIFA, FIFA, let's watch some soccer. Done. Done and done. So, all right, that was my little input about FIFA, but go on. All right, so let's see who wins the World Cup on July 19th. I'm interested to see who's even going because I don't know. Good luck to everyone involved. Uh, the next trend that I feel like I'm kind of like just in hand now, what's the word I'm looking for? I'm embracing that without even knowing I'm embracing it, is the butter mom summer aesthetic. I need to know what that is. No, ma'am. And it doesn't have to do with, right? It doesn't have to do with giving my kids buttery popcorn. Okay, that's not what I'm embracing, even though I am. No, but the butter mom summer aesthetic, um, I seen on TikTok and I love it. I love everything about it. So it's like wearing denim and cotton and like linen clothing, just like loose, light clothing, lots of outdoors, just a simple, non-chaotic life, non-chaotic summer specifically. And what I seen on TikTok, the one that really I was just like, I want this in my life. It's a 90s type thing. So 90s butter mom summer. So it's having that perfect summer outfit. Mind you, the picture they're showing is just a picture of Julia Roberts lounging in this oversized outdoor chair in some overalls and a white tee, and just barefoot, which looks nice and comfy. A lot of denim, summer of bubbles, so playing outside, bubbles with the kids, just being free and dancing. I don't know. Sprinklers, having the sprinklers on, running through the sprinklers, popsicles, sunscreen, drinking from the hose, which is so funny because my neighbor actually played a prank on my son. I saw him do it where he filled his water container up with hose water. And he thought he was being funny, but I was like, Oh, that's nice. He's filling up with water for him. So and then my son drinks it, and then my neighbors laughed. They're like, I put you know, hose water in it. And my son looks so disgusted. He was he was like, like he was gonna die. I was like watching him, right? I was like, Benny, you're fine. He's like, that's so gross, it has bacteria in it, stop purified like the inside water. Growing up, we used to drink out of the hose, and it was fine. It has an interesting hose taste, but you just deal with it. I didn't even think we were allowed to go in the house. Drink the water. You in the house, you stay in the house. That was a threat. So we have to do that. Yeah, like you can't be going in and out the house. What the heck? Exactly. So then later on, I saw them both drinking out the hose. Okay, now you know, stop coming in my house to get water. Save the purified water for later on in the day. Like road trips with the family, you know, just kind of hanging out, fresh cut fruit, like watermelon slices as snacks, which I love. Luckily, my kids love watermelon. My husband and I love watermelon, so we keep that in the house and it's so filling and it's so refreshing. It's so good. Um, and then just making the most out of the backyard, no screens, no phones, and the neighborhood kids, when all the neighborhood kids, which actually like we're really lucky to live in the neighborhood we do, because a lot of the neighborhood kids do come to my house. I think I mentioned it one time, like once I walked through the door, I had no idea who he was. But they are really not on their phones. And my son doesn't have a phone, my neighbor does. Um, and they'll be on it for a little bit. You know, they get tired of playing small rest, but then before I know it, they're ladded again. Um, I bought this little tiny pool, which is a multi-purpose pool, because um, when I first bought it, I bought it for my kids' birthday party. It was a little ball pit for the little ones because I knew that they were not gonna survive in the jumper with the big kids. So I got them this pool and it's like heavy duty. It's like also meant for like dogs, so you know, like they can't like rip it up with their nails. And it looks so huge. Like when I used it as a ball pit, like I didn't have enough balls to fill that sucker up. Like it was just so big. But now that we're filling it up with water, the kids are having a blast. But my my son and my neighbor kid that comes over all the time, like if they're both in there, like that's it. Like they're just kind of like two freaking sharks in like a little tadpole pond. Yeah, they could they have to move, you know, together in order to move around at this little pool. But they love it and they're just like in and out, and then my daughter will play in there. Um, we have a little splash pad that they're using, so we really are embracing the backyard. Um, they're having just such a good time, and like it's it's chaotic a little bit, yes. You know, it's a little messy, you know, there's popsicle sticks and wrappers on the floor and all that, but just being able to be out there, and I there I am outside with my water or my drink in the shade, and I'm just like watching all this chaos go down. It's amazing. And then, like I said, we're kind of like closing out our night, watching some type of Disney movie with our popcorn and just kind of chilling and grilling and just living summer up, and it's very butter mom summer aesthetic, is from what I've seen. So I love it. I'm gonna have to do a butter mom aesthetic fit check, mom style made easy, and put some denim and linen together. I I have overalls, but they're not like the loose overalls, they're like the skin tight ones. It does not give the same vibes, yeah. Not the same vibes at all. But yeah, like just definitely free. Yeah, just like letting your hair down and like playing in the bubbles and the sprinklers and all that, like just such a good time. So I love, love that trend. And I saw like a lot of other stuff where it's just like basically the denim and being outside, like being outdoors, embracing everything outdoors, playing in the grass, whatever it may be in the water, you know, in the lake if you have a lake, or going to the beach, whatever the case may be. But just really embracing the simple things, just what nature has to offer, and that's basically it. Yes. I love all of that. I think that's a great, a great trend in embracing the sunshine and the weather and going back to the old school life.

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Right?

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Being being outside. We're a sunblock, though, people. We're your sunblock. Oh we went to my niece's graduation um from UC San Diego, and we were out there, and I th I mean I figured it was to be nice weather because we are in San Diego, but holy guacamole, the sun was beaming. It was being we'd get this like nice breeze, but overall, we were just a little miserable. I'm not gonna lie. It was just so uncomfortable. But I really did think I got burnt until I got home and I took off my dress, and I was like, oh my god, what the hey? Yeah, so I have the craziest looking tans right now. So hopefully by the end of summer, before I go back to work, I can even them out so I don't look so crazy. Because my goodness, these people, don't forget the sunblock during these summer, even my melanin ladies, you know, all my melanin's wear your sunblock. We all need it. Yes. All right, so like I said earlier, um, Iish and I usually talk every day for a good amount of time. However, she was out and about. Um, so I want to hear how Einish's trip went. So, I Nish, first tell me why did you go out of town? It was an anniversary trip slash family trip. Yay! How many years? 11. We celebrated our 11th year anniversary and wedding anniversary. Wedding anniversary. We are officially married according to the courthouse and and our witness, witnesses, but and god, and god, of course, of course, the man above. But it was a it was a surprise anniversary trip. I had no clue, and my husband's really that is his jam. We we go tit for tat with surprising each other, and he's he's winning, he's winning. So okay, do you want to tell us where you went? I was sorry, yes, yeah, yes, we went to pull and tate over here. Yes, so it was a surprise trip, our wedding anniversary. We went to dinner, and at dinner he told myself and the kids, we're going somewhere, pack your bags, we leave in the morning, pack swimsuits, and he packed the boys' suitcases, which was so nice. I typically do all the packing, and I'm because I I don't want to say I'm a control freak, but I just take charge. I know what they need. But it was really nice that he packed and we went to a resort. It so it was like a staycation. The resort is called Kalahari, really great resort. It's in Texas. Uh it was maybe an hour or two outside of Houston, but it's an African-themed resort. And it was just it was really nice. They they offered an indoor water slide. What do you call it? Indoor water park. Water park. I was like, water slide sounds crazy, like one day, like, oh, that's fun. All right. They had an indoor water park. I wish that I would have recorded the boys when we were pulling up into the resort location because again, we had no idea where we were going literally until we pulled up. And the outdoor has really great curb appeal. And so a few of the water slides go outside of the building and curve back inside of the building. So you could see the massive water slides outside of the building, and they freaked out. They were in their own world, and at this point, we had been in the car for roughly about five hours. And my husband was like, Okay, we're here. And they're like, Oh my god, thank you so much, Daddy. They were so happy. They both instantly thanked them, and they're little they were just so happy. But I was like in the midst of being appreciating it with them. That's why I didn't pull my phone out. I mean, I didn't know what the surprise could have been. So what do I look like recording? And what was happening? But it was really great. We spent, like you said, about a week, almost a week there. And it was the rooms were, it was a really nice room, very large. It was very accommodating for the family, the four of us. And they had, I honestly don't know how many water slides they had there, but it was just really, really accommodating and just a lot of fun. I'm not a water girly, and the youngest one is my child for sure. But my husband used to be a lifeguard in his past life, which just sounds crazy to say out loud. And I knew him during that time, but it still sounds weird. And our oldest son really enjoys the water. So they were two peas in the pod. My son went down some of this. I I was terrified. I didn't even see him go down. I seen him go down one side, but I'm like, my heart honestly can't even take it. So, but they were just going down the water slides together, and we were there during the week. I love doing vacation stuff during the week, especially with the family because there are less people there versus the weekend. And we ended on the weekend, but and that's when the people started to roll in. Perfect timing though. They also offered an outdoor water park space as well, if you wanted to get that vitamin D we were talking about. So we did experience that. And they had an arcade there, an indoor, just an arcade. I don't know why I'm saying indoor, but they had an arcade. As opposed to it being outside, you know. And uh they had miniature golf. My husband paid for, we were able to do everything that the hotel offered us as far as on their description. They had separate things to pay for, they had two escape rooms as well that were available. They also offered bowling. We did the bowling, they played miniature golf. They had laser tag that was extra. They had an actual roller coaster within the space. Oh my god. Huge, huge. The space was massive. And they had in. I was telling you, Sil that they had this oversized big mega TV that played like 80s and early, early 90s music, more rock. But I loved it. I gotta love the music. And the music videos, gosh. They played the music videos, and the screen was mega, like mega, mega jumbotron screen, playing all the mute, the old school music videos. It was honestly, I wouldn't have chosen it because again, I don't like the water. But hey, I I went down a couple slides with the baby. I rode in the lazy river by myself. Oh my gosh. Who are you on vacation? I niche does not like the water. Like, God forbid we do anything water related. It's it's a no-go. Just you know, definitely push her in or something. Don't do that. Don't do that. But no, I got in the lazy river. They had a jacuzzi, an indoor-outdoor jacuzzi. I got in that by myself. So I was able to do those two things by myself. They have a band every single night, a live band. And very kid friendly. Very, very kid friendly, definitely geared towards family. I 100% would recommend that to any and everyone. And if you're not a parent, they do have adult spaces that's away from the kids. So you have to have an ID to go into that water space. I think it's called the grotto, but they have a ball very adult-ish. A swim up bar in there and just peace and serenity, I'm assuming, goes on in there away from the crowd. But it was such a great, a great, great, great gesture for my husband to do that and kept the kids in mind. And me, honestly. Ultimately, Kalahari Resort was really, really, really good. Well laid out. Just everything was just easily accessible. And the kids, all just nothing but smiles everywhere. It was a such a great, a great surprise. I am so grateful that he thought to do that because I had zero ideas. So I was talking to you and you were we were texting as we were en route. Like, girl, did you make it yet? I was like, no, girl, we're in the car. I mean, I was secretly hoping she was coming to California. No. Yeah. But I mean, I I'm glad you guys also have this experience. That that's fun. It's having kids, it's really hard to have an enjoyable vacation, staycation because you know you're always constantly worried about everything else but yourself. But it seems like you were also able to kind of have fun on not on your own, but you were also able to enjoy yourself, is what I'm trying to say. Yeah. While the kids also enjoyed themselves, you had everything you needed. So it's hard to get all of it in one. So that that to me, I think is is awesome that you were you guys as a family as a whole were able to have such a good time on your anniversary. Yes, it was it was nice. He 10,000 points to my hubby. He he strikes again with the surprise. The kids were on their best behavior. All in all, the everything was just really, really nice. What good job to your hubby. So besides the trip, so far for your summer, have you had any parenting fails or wins? Anything you wish you could take back or anything you're just like, oh my gosh, I'm so had glad this happened. Parenting fails. I can't think of any fails at the moment. A win would be before the move, my girl, one of my girlfriends, and I had a garage sale. So that was her idea because she felt my stress and I was able to shed some weight and not take unnecessary items during our move. So that to me is a is a summer win. And for sure, especially when moving, you don't want to just take a bunch of unnecessary stuff. So yes, and I wasn't a win. Yes. But no, no fells. What about you, so how you feeling? How are you feeling? Let's see. I do have a parenting win. This one isn't necessarily well, I guess I guess I have a few. But my nephew came over earlier in the summer and he is nine, ten. He's ten. And he wanted to ride my son's bike. Mind you, I didn't know he didn't know how to ride a bike. So I got scary really quick. And he was like really eager to learn. I think he had tried to learn for a while, uh, but then stopped. So he still couldn't ride a bike on his own. So we ended up taking the kids to the park. And a poor kid, he was going around the track and fall into the grass, like every few feet, just fall into the grass. And I was like, Are you okay? How are you feeling? He's like, I really want to learn. Hey, don't give up. Let's take a deep breath. I'm trying to give him different pointers and tips. I did not teach my son how to ride a bike, my husband did. So I don't really know what strategies, but finally I was able to help him and he started to ride the bike on his own. So that was a win for me. My son and I are cheering for him pedal and go. So it was fun. So his dad actually got him a bike, and I was able to see. So today after my massage, I I went, I was able like I was like right next to my my mom's house, and he was out there riding his new bikes. I was so proud of him. So he he really wants to come over and ride bikes with my son. So that was a win, especially because I mean, one, just being able to ride a bike, I feel like everyone should be able to ride a bike, but clearly that's not the case, especially now in the days of technology. And I guess this is why Toy Story made that movie, right? And take like now that kids are so heavy on technology, there's a lot of kids who really do not know how to ride a bike. Yes. And it it makes me sad. I feel that's a regular childhood milestone. Yeah. So to be able to help him do that, and he really is about his tablet. So yeah, that is definitely a win. I have been working with my kids. We've just been doing like homework over the summer and trying to teach my daughter her colors. She's very stubborn, is what we're learning. I I'm torn between does she have a learning disability or is she just messing with me? And I'm kind of in that I think she's just messing with me because she she'll say the right colors and later on she's just saying totally different stuff, but she laughs. She laughs about it. And I'm like, can we be serious? But she's three. How do you tell a three-year-old to be serious? Like, can you stop scaring mommy? I need to know whether you know these things. And then like earlier today, we were um, she has a she has a a placemat that has like all the letters on them. And we were, I I do the sounds with her. I haven't really taught her like the the names of the letters. I wanted her to know the sounds of the letters first. And we were at P. So I'm like, puh, puh. And she's like, no, mommy, P. What? How do you even know that? Yeah, you're right. You know, so it was it was a win, but also I didn't teach you that. I wanted you to know the sounds, right? Right. I thought I was stuttering, like she's like, hey, mommy, take your time, take your time, right? Yeah, so um, so yeah, but then I being a teacher is so stressful when you're trying to teach your own kids because am I a failure as a teacher, or what is it that I don't I don't know how to teach my own kids? Right? Because so she ends up with my son's Uno cards and she had them all over the table, and then she has them on top of her letters placemat. So she has the number one Uno card in her hand and she's looking for it on the placemat. And I'm trying to tell her, like, it's not there. That is the number, those are letters, and she's like, I can't find it. And I'm like trying to explain to her, well, you're not gonna find it because it's a number, not a letter. And she was just so mad that she couldn't find it if I only just had a letter B and just be not because she wasn't understanding. How do I teach my kids that these are numbers and these are letters, you're not gonna find it. And she's just so being so stubborn. No, it's here. I just gotta find it. And you're not showing it to me. She's pissed off at me. Yeah, and I'm just frustrated. What the heck? So, yeah. So those are a little bit of my fails. And oh my god, that's not a fail. You're teaching she's learning in her own in her own way. I should I think stubborn is appropriate for sure. My son is stubborn to the his core. So I think she's fooling with you, she's messing with you.

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It's like, why?

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Why do you gotta do me like that? I just want you to to learn and know things. But she but she's also so she's becoming very demanding, and I don't know how to stop this. I I don't. My son, he had his own little issues, he was more of a, I guess, a crybaby, but she is demanding, she's a boss. Yeah, she she has a speech delay, and so when she says words, I'm excited. But she's I don't know if she's purposely just using a few words to sound more demanding. Just earlier, she was sitting at her booster seat eating a slice of pizza, and she's like, mommy, and she just points. So I'm looking and she's pointing to the chair. She's gone into this habit where she wants me to sit next to her every time she eats. And I'm like, no, when you eat, that's when I can go and do stuff without you freaking following me. Like use a restroom without you being right there. And um, and she's just pointing, mommy, sit. And she's and she's like, point, but her facial expression is so serious, and she's and she's a key, a gi, sit. And I'm like, no, you're not my boss. I'm out of here. My gosh, she's constantly trying to be like, We love a bilingual queen though. Oh, she's she's so bilingual. I love a bilingual queen. She's all over the place. She's so spinglish, it's so funny. But yeah, she's definitely a boss in her own mind. And I'm like, oh my gosh. I wonder if I wonder if they skipped the terrible two phase and it's the terrible three phase. Oh, I think so. That's what I think. I felt like she was pretty chill in her twos, but now that she's able to speak, it's like all she wants to do is speak demands. Same, same Z. My son, he has a very large vocabulary. And what fascinates me is that he won't say please. He makes a demand. And I've gotten to the point where I'll just ignore him until he picks up on my ignoring, which takes a while. And then I what do you say? Please, you say like a thousand words. Can I have water, please? Water, please. And I I talk to him like he's 20, and he's just looking at me. Huh? I say all those words to him. I yeah, I'm always, you have such a large vocabulary. Just say please. And he'll look at me. Um again, he eventually says it after I tell him to say it. I truly think that they're messing with us, and the demanding is part of the nonsense that's happening.

SPEAKER_01 32:46

It's just ugly.

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Yes, yes, for sure. Definitely an exciting 100%.

SPEAKER_01 32:49

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 32:50

So our kids are born a day apart, literally just a day apart. Not probably even less than 24 hours, actually. They're so close to being just born almost at the same time. But yeah, they're very similar. And it's a little scary. I don't know if they're gonna make it as a couple. Unfortunate. Like it's just so similar. Like she's they gotta change. I think that they need to change. I think what will happen is I'm in the process of teaching him how to be calm, and we're working on breathing exercises. I mentioned that a few episodes back, and I'll put my hand on his heart if he's really frustrated to calm him down so he can breathe and just find his center in his ground. I know this sounds crazy because he's three, but and even two. I've been doing this since he was two. But just helping him regulate his emotions. And first, you need to calm down and breathe. And let's evaluate the situation. Why are you so upset? And again, yes, I know he was two and we're traveling into three. But I wonder with all these exercises that he's doing, he'll be able to calm little mama down. And please, girl, I need to breathe. Right? You know, and the funny thing is that so my daughter will say please, but it's like banging, like, please, mommy, please. I'm like, oh my gosh. And then it's like, thank you. As soon as she gets her way, thank you, and she just walks away. I knew I was gonna get my way typing.

SPEAKER_01 34:09

She's so s uh Well, I wish he'd say please more often.

SPEAKER_00 34:14

And sometimes that's I know he knows. I know he knows what he's doing because he'll say it sometimes, but he'd rather say it over and over again the wrong way, over and over and over. And then the second, even my oldest son is over it. What's the magic word? And he knows it. And I'm and I'm thinking, how do you even know what the magic word is? When did that conversation happen? I didn't have it with you. So he knows, and he's already putting the different words and correlations together. He knows what he's doing. Stubborn. I don't want to say he'll say it. Tell me to say it and I'll say it. But maybe I'll get it without saying it. Oof, oof. That's a whole episode right there, right? Oof, right? I know. All right, so any summer pet peeves. Do you have any pet peeves yet? Any pet peeves? I would say no pet peeves. You know what? I lied. I had a pet I had a pet peeve in our old place in Texas, is that parents aren't keeping their children occupied. I see a lot of kids just roaming aimlessly. Teenagers roaming the streets. Just trying to continue. Get in trouble. Looking for trouble. So I I wish that more parents would, if you can, I understand if you have a job, but there's there are summer programs out there. I know the Y has summer camps. And there are sport activing activities out there that you can place your kids in. But keep your kids active, keep your kids busy. I know we talked about boredom is healthy. But to a certain extent. Not that boring. To a certain extent. Wandering the streets. I'm over clutching my purse. Let me cross the other side of the street. I'm not trying to be afraid of y'all kids now. And so just so I would say that's a pet peeve is kids roaming aimlessly trying to find some. They're looking for trouble. They're looking for something to do. There is there's a trending, I'm not sure if it's trending anymore now at this point, but there's a story on Netflix about this young lady, and unfortunately, she rammed her vehicle. So I'm not sure if you heard of this story or movie, but she rammed her car into a wall and she murdered her boyfriend and a friend in the car. She's the one who's in jail right now, right? She likes Kim Kardashian to be her lawyer and all that nonsense. Yeah. That's a whole bunch of nonsense. And so there's a lot of videos online, and I there's a video of them being bored and they broke into a church. I stumbled upon this video of them breaking into a church. Where are the parents at? My gosh. High school kids. There are there are so many activities that you and I the why costs money. You're probably pay for my kid to go to the why. Okay, don't take them to the why. But if they're cousins, if they're just anything, give work. Still mentioned work. My kids do work. They have summer school at home. Put together a booklet. There are a lot of different things online that you can do. So I will 100% say a pet peeve of mine are aimlessly roaming kids in the streets. Trying to find something to do with it. I can see that. Yeah. So that's that. What about you, sir? What's your pet peeve? Do you have a pet peeve? Uh I do. I do. So since I'm home now for the summer, I don't wake up as early as I typically would during the week. And my pet peeve is that seems like at least three times a week, someone's lawn is getting mowed. And it's at like seven in the morning, and I get it, they want to get a start early because it's freaking hot as heck out there. But can we just do them all on the same day and get it over with? Every almost every freaking morning, I wake up to the sound of a lawnmower or a weed whack or something going on. Yeah. Well, see, I wish it was the same time. Not every day, something new. And I have neighbors all around. So someone's always doing something, being all out in the morning, or then there's trash cans, and I think I have a lot of pet peeves. When another pet peeve of mine is the trash cans, the times that these people take the trash cans out or bring them in. I get it. If you work early and maybe no one's home, okay, whatever time before you leave, you might take them out. But how about you take them out the night before? Okay, not at five in the morning. I had a neighbor who brought their brought their their trash cans in at like one in the morning. Girl, you were hearing aids. No, they're freaking loud. We no, we so we sleep with the windows open uh to get that fresh air at night. Y'all live on it. And I don't know if our you already know how we do, but and I don't know if maybe our neighborhood echoes or what the case is, but you can hear and it's loud. It sounds like freaking thunder. It sounds like and then they drop, they just drop up, and so it's like a boom, and I didn't need to be scared like that. It's just so annoying. I hate the trash cans at the crazy hours. I hate the lawnmowers at the crazy hour, it was in the morning. Um, and then last my last pet peeve, and this has to do with my kids, is the I'm hungry fate phrase. I'm hungry. I'm hungry. My daughter says it just to say it at this point. I've learned. Um, and my son says it every hour. I'm hungry. I'm hungry. You're occupied. He actually has all these things going on that he could do, whether playing outside, playing, or doing homework, whatever the case is, and still he finds time to be hungry. I'm like, how are you? I I am out of snacks. Like I don't know what other kind of snacks to get them because it's it's just it's out of control. It's out and it's like hot. I'm not trying to be in the freaking kitchen all day. When it's what not one kid, it's the other. And then luckily, my husband, he fenced for himself. He's he's good on his own. I'm barely eating at this point. So I think it probably annoys me more that the kids are always so hungry because I barely I don't have a freaking appetite. So I'm just like, I'm fucking in the kitchen again, again. Stay full, stay freaking full. They're growing, burning calories, all that playing they're doing. That that's like burning calories. Like my daughter walks around, she'll have a bag of chips in her hand or whatever. She's mommy, I'm hungry. I girl feel good on my phrase. Right? I'm just so tired of that phrase. Like, say it in Spanish at least. Say say it in another language. I'm just tired of hearing. And you say it in Spanish.

unknown 40:30

Right?

SPEAKER_00 40:30

What do you want to do? Dingoambre.

SPEAKER_01 40:32

Dingoam.

SPEAKER_00 40:32

Bingo hambre. Yeah. And my my son, at one point, he would tell me I'm famished. There you go. You just ate. There are kids who are actually famished. Get the hell out of my base. Yeah, no. Mm-mm. So many peppers. I'm sorry. Yeah, oh my god. But you know what? I'm just not used to it. Every summer I have my adjustments that I have to make. But there are just some that you just can't get used to. I just I can't. Yeah, that lawnmower and trash can situation is throwing me for a loot. We honestly, our bedroom back in in Texas space, the this the main street, I would never leave the windows open or anything like that. But I don't think I ever heard a trash can get dropped ever. Oh god, I like it just makes me feel like they do it on purpose. Wake up. Wake up. I just gotta. If I have to, if I have to be out here pulling my trash, because you're all gonna wake up. You couldn't find a more appropriate time to do this. Why do you want to do this now? That's why what's the ur what's the sudden urge? I don't know. I don't get it. But all right, let's go ahead and move into our Sing to Me segment. So I know this episode's been slightly different as far as structure goes, but we cannot leave out our Sing to Me segment. Okay. All right, so if you have been listening, you already know how this goes for any new pores out there. The way Sing to Me Goes is I will ask Ainish a question based on song lyrics, and the goal is for her to not only repeat it to me, or I'm sorry, the goal is for not only for her to answer it correctly, but to sing it back to me, hence sing to me. Then after she answers hers correctly or most likely incorrectly, then it's my turn to answer her question. He said, most likely incorrectly. Wait a minute. Alright, so Ainish, are you ready? Sure. All right. In bottoms up by Trey Songs. He says, now I got a blank and the blink in the ride. What does he have in the ride? There's two things. Now I got a blank and the blink in the ride. And bottoms up.

SPEAKER_01 42:41

Bottoms up.

SPEAKER_00 42:42

I can I can't even grasp the rhythm of the the verse. Oh I have the chorus. Ask me the question again. Okay. So he says, now I got a blank and the blank in the ride. What are those blanks? Now I gotta and okay, so I'll give you a hint. The next line says getting loose in the ride. Now I got a blank and the blank in the ride, getting loose in the ride. I have nothing. I have nothing. Nothing. We should do like a call of friends, I think. Yes. A lifeline. Need to use a lifeline. I want to use a lifeline. Deshaun would always be the lifeline. He knew every song. He made jumped into it. Why does his brain work like that? Go ahead and tell me. I don't know. I have not and I I really like that song too. Says, now I got a chicken and the goose in the ride, getting loose in the ride.

unknown 43:30

No?

SPEAKER_00 43:31

Definitely wouldn't. So cheers to the girls, throw a deuce to the guys. Now I got a chicken and the goose in the ride, getting loose in the ride. Yum. Hate an S. You can move to move to move to the side. Nope. Okay. None of that. Nothing. Nothing. Nothing. Hmm. Okay. Well, let's go. These are easy. I I again I say this every week. In Destiny's Child's bills, bills, bills. If he did what, they would what? If he did what, they would what? Hold on. If he did this, they would what? Oh okay.

SPEAKER_01 44:02

Oh no we just turn it to the shooting if he went then my shoot. I don't want to give up.

SPEAKER_00 44:28

Oh yeah, if he pays the bills, then we could chill. Then maybe we could chill. A telephone. Then maybe we could chill. Right? You are correct. So can you pay my bills? Can you pay my telephone bills? Do you pay my animal bills?

SPEAKER_01 44:44

Do you pay my animal bills? If you did, then maybe we could chill. There you go. You don't.

SPEAKER_00 44:51

Yes. Yeah, that's where I was going with that too. Alright. So our next song. Okay. She says, I want to be with you in spite of what? In spite of your flaws. You're making me high? I don't really know that song. I want to be with you in spite of her. She would always sing, she was always singing about other women. Miss Tony. Miss Tony the living legend, Braxton, as her sister would call her. I want to be with you in spite of. If I were writing a song, I'd say in spite of your flaws. But is that do you really want to be with someone in spite of their flaws? Is that really the lyric? I know. I know it's not. I know that's not the answer. So I didn't mean. I don't know. I gosh, that's a I haven't heard that's that's not a rotation either. There there is a Tony Braxton song in rotation, but that is not the song that they they play. It's definitely not appropriate. And I my cousin and I used to sing Tony Braxton when we were younger. This is what, like late 90s? Uh-huh. We had no business singing this friggin song.

SPEAKER_01 45:58

Very inappropriate.

SPEAKER_00 46:01

Very sneaky sneaky with her beautiful angelic voice singing all these dirty songs. I don't know, so let's not let's not hold up the the game. What's what what is it? What is she what is she yapping about? She says, I wanna be with you in spite of what my heart says. I guess I want you to bend. All I want you there inside me. Oh, yeah. Yeah, I was singing that at like 10 years old.

SPEAKER_01 46:35

Goodness.

SPEAKER_00 46:36

Miss Tone it, tone it, does it again? Okay. I honestly, if I would have maybe tried a little bit more of thinking, deep thinking, I I might have gotten close, closer than what I did right now. All right, Sil, you stumped me again. Let's see if you can guess this last song lyric. What was Christina Aguilera waiting for in her hit single Genie and a Bottle? Jeannie in a bottle. Hey, alright, let's see. That's not what I was uh looking for. Very close though. Not say that.

SPEAKER_01 47:24

If you wanna be with me, I can make your wish come true. Just come and send me free, baby, and I'll be with you. Gotta rub me the right way, honey. I'm a genie in a bottle, baby. Come, come, come on now. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 47:45

Wait, what was the question? What was Christina Aguilera waiting for in her hit single genie in a bottle? To be let out. I'm a genie in a bottle, baby. Gotta rub me. She wanted me to be rubbed the right way.

unknown 47:59

No.

SPEAKER_00 48:00

She was waiting to be rubbed the right way. What? She was waiting. Shoot. Is that your final answer? No. Um let's see. Hold on. Oh. I keep seeing the same part. Alright. Fine. I don't know. I think the correct lyrics are waiting for someone who needs me. Dang it. Oh yeah, I thought the words were release me. Waiting for someone to release me. That makes sense. It's a little dirty. When you think about it. Yeah, I mean that that those lyrics can go really south. We're not on that dirty train today, ma'am. Dang it. She was waiting for someone who needs her. So that's it. That's okay. Now you know the lyrics. Now if you ever hear that song again, you can sing them prop properly with Miss Eggman. Dang it. Okay. Alright. Dang it. I was more of a strip fan. So I think her second album, not necessarily this one. And I wasn't, actually. I wasn't that big of a fan. I have had at least three stripped CDs in my lifetime because I've scratched them all. Wow. Yeah. Thank goodness for like Apple Music now. Okay. Interesting. I can't even. I I got nothing about stripped. Nothing. Oh, I loved it. There's so many good songs on there. Oh my gosh. Interesting. She has a beautiful voice. Big ups. Big shout out to Miss Aguilera. Okay, all right. Well, there goes our Sing to Me segment. So I had one and you had one? Oh, I sung to both times.

SPEAKER_01 49:36

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 49:37

No such luck today for me. There goes my brain. So okay, at least one of us was a winner. Yikes. I feel like I was pretty close though. You were to both. Yes. You were definitely close. All right. Moving on to the next segment. So now I get to share some of my experiences that I've endured this summer. One is this first one's a funny story. So a few years ago, I bought these sandals from Amazon. They were recommended to me by my cousin. There were these select slides. And she's like, oh, they're so comfy. Blah, blah, blah. All right, cool. And they were. I tried hers on, so comfy. I wore them. And I remember going to another cousin's house for a pool party. And she tells me, she saw my sandals. She's like, oh, but they're so they're cute, blah, blah, blah. Just be careful because they'll shrink. I'm like, what? What the fuck? Like, I'm not throwing them in the dryer. No, they'll shrink in the sun.

SPEAKER_01 50:31

And I was like, what are they made out of? Why are they shrinking?

SPEAKER_00 50:35

They're just, I don't know, rubber. They were rubber. I don't know. But all right, cool. So we're swimming in our pool, just having a good time. Hours later, I go to get my sandals and I go to put them on, and they're freaking small. They're like two sizes too small. Oh my god. And I called her. I was like, they shrunk. Like I I was so just dumbfounded. And she starts busting up. She has the same pair of sandals, but she wears like a size five. She has the tiniest foot ever. Yes. So those are mine. And I was like, my gosh, I thought my sandals had a really strong. Oh goodness. Okay. Fast forward to today, actually. Yeah. Fast forward to today, I am outside with the kids and I had left those same sandals outside. Okay. And they were outside for a few days. Mind you, it's summer. It's been really hot. And I I just forgot them. So I go to put them on and I was like, holy guacamole, these mother effers actually shrink. They do not fit me anymore. My whole heel is out of these sandals. I'm like, so they really do shrink. Like, what the heck? So I wonder if there's a warning label on there. I I don't know. She knew they shrunk, but hers still fit her. Mine shrink so many sizes. They fit my son now. Those are his slides.

SPEAKER_01 51:56

There you go.

SPEAKER_00 51:57

He's like, oh, these are so comfy. And I was like, well, watch out. They're gonna become your sister's slides if you don't put them inside. And that's what to do when it's time. Switch in the sun's getting shrinked down. How much smaller can these freaking slides get? I I was dumped. I'm like, okay, this really does happen. They shrink. I didn't, I did not know. That's hilarious. That was a thing. So there has to be a warning. Your sandals inside they're made out of rubber or in the shade. Yeah. I know. And luckily they were both out there, and not one stayed in the shade the whole time. I have two different sizes. Do they shrink to the same size? They're both the same size, yeah. Fascinating. So at least that happens. There's a disclaimer on there. What the frick? It's it's probably my order history in my Amazon's off to look back. I mean, it's been a few years now. I'm sure there probably people complaining. People keep shoes outside, outside shoes. I guess I'm getting my money's worth because they were my sandals and now they're my son's. Like luckily they're black. 100%. Well, I'm wearing the music. They're so comfy. Oh my god. Well, alright. You know, so that's one thing. But and mind you, we haven't talked in a few days, or almost a week at this point. So let me just fill you in. We went to BJ's uh over the weekend, and well, we went because my son got one of those like award things from school where they get like a free pazo or whatever. Yeah. So we go and we had a decent time. Like the kids love their food, they ate their food, you know, the pazukis were amazing. I go to the restroom, and when I I'm walking towards the restroom, and there's like a weird, like a door before the door type thing. Yes. And I could hear like a full-blown-on conversation in Spanish going on in the ladies' room. There's definitely two workers, and they're having a meeting in the ladies' room. And he's speaking in Spanish. That's exactly what was going on. And they're talking loud, like they were not trying to whisper. And so I'm in the restroom, and luckily I'm bilingual, so I know what they're saying. And I got intrigued. I stayed there a little bit longer than I needed to, because this lady was talking about how her man cheated on her. And she caught him cheating. And I was like, Oh my gosh, I felt bad. And I think she liked started crying at one point. But but it was like really, it was like a really quick conversation. You know, I'm sure they were on the clock. But I loved what her friend said. She was like, you know, the girl was younger than me, blah, blah, blah. And I was like, dang, I don't remember seeing like older women when I walked in, but whatever. So her friend was like, you know what? We need to go out. Like, forget him. Let's go out. Like, we're gonna have a good time, blah, blah, blah. Like, you don't need him. And I was like, Oh, like I'm glad that she had that friend because you could tell me she was definitely distraught that you know she had been, you know, cheated on.

SPEAKER_02 54:52

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 54:52

But hopefully this was like a blessing in disguise for her. Um, she has you know, she had a friend who's just like willing to like just pick her up, like, all right, like we're gonna go out. Yeah. So like when I finally got out of my stall, I seen her. Yeah, she was like, she had a nice face. Like, you know, she she was she wasn't like old, she wasn't old by any means. She was definitely like on the younger side. So I was like, dang, like, how young was this chick that this fool she argued with? But punk. I was like, right. I was like, oh my gosh. Sure, we're working hard for the money. PJ's, right? Oh, but but I mean, what I took out of it is like she has a really good friend who is like, oh no, like you're not gonna cry over this loser. We are going out and you're gonna meet someone new. Hey.

SPEAKER_01 55:37

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 55:38

So that's really sweet. And the the comfort that she felt to confide in a coworker, we've been in the industry, and that's how we met our friendship. And being able to have someone that you can confide in, especially in such a vulnerable moment, is really nice. Yeah, but so BJ's was great up until well, I mean, it was fine for me, but that was my experience at BJ's. I was like, oh sad. But other than that, it's been a lot of it's been a lot of fun being home with the kids. I mean, yes, they've been driving me nuts at the same time. Like I said, my living room is full of freaking colorful Barbie and baby doll accessories and nerf bullets and you know, all this other nonsense in there and butter and popcorn kernels. All the butter. It's it's it's been fun. Like we're we're having a good time, we're embracing it. And I really just want to continue to embrace this what's it, the buttermom summer aesthetics. And I feel like we're really doing that. The kids are they're outdoors a lot. It hasn't been much of an issue to get off their well, I say there, but the girl doesn't have any type of devices. But for my son, he's just not on his iPad, anything like that. He's actually, you know, having fun. He's into the World Cup right now, he's into playing baseball outside or basketball with the neighborhood kids. Um, one of the neighborhood kids fight like other basketball court up. So they've been out there until the sun goes down, basically, still fighting for more time. But I'm like, nope, once the sun is down, you need to be home. You need to follow those rules. My son doesn't have a phone or a watch, so that is how he knows to come home. It's once it's dark, you need to run your butt home. Yes, I love it. Yeah, and then like I said, I got my massage today. I'm getting a facial tomorrow. I'm just trying to also take care of myself while I am on break. I have been struggling with some side effects from my GLP one journey that I've been on. And um finally I feel like it's starting to calm down. But like I said, I wasn't able to have carbonated beverages. Um, I had to be really careful with what I've been eating lately. So that kind of sucks, but it's also keeping me in check. Just a lot of fresh food for sure, nothing heavy, which you know is good for all of us in the household.

SPEAKER_01 58:08

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 58:09

So it's it's definitely been interesting. But I am just looking forward to more summer to come. All these like random things that happened to me in my life, sandals and whatnot. But I mean, you know, just having fun with the kids, making the memories with them. My daughter, she's at that cute stage where she just says the most randomest things. And like I said, she's trying to be a boss up in this house. And so it's funny to see she has no shame, no limits, no nothing. She just says it as how it is. Her favorite word right now is disgusting. Everything's disgusting to her. Okay. Disgusting. And she puts her hand in her face and it's all drama. Oh, she's oh drama. Oh my gosh. The slightest bug is an inconvenience to her. But she always every time I kill it, or we kill the bug or whatever, she wants to see it. I want to see it. I want to see. And then I'll flush them, I'll put them in the toilet. But I won't always flush right away. She's like, flush, push it, push the button. She wants to make sure they're out of here. Get the bug out of here. Yeah. Right. But yeah, just fun with the family. Yeah, that's nothing too crazy, I don't think. I'm sure I'm forgetting something. Oh, that's plenty. Oh, yeah. Oh gosh, the indoor park. So that that was fun. There's a slide. So there's two slides at the indoor uh park that we went to. And it's not the one that we've, you know, I have gone to, it's one in a different city. And this one just it's basically the same thing, just like the setup is a little bit different. But this one has two different types of slides. So it has the slides that have like the bumps, and then there's another slide that it's like almost straight down and go. So my son was like, well, you know go on the slide and like, all right, cool. You know, and I was figuring we were going on the bump one. I didn't even know the other one existed. So I go and I'm like, crap, this is like straight down super steep. I'm not no freaking biatch. I'm gonna go on. Oh my gosh. I slid down so fast, I was screaming the whole way down. Freaking hit my knee. Apparently, as I was going down, somehow I bent my son's arm. Oh my god. He was like, You hurt me. Yell it, like it happened so fast, and I just flung out. It just shot out of the slide. And there's just parents there looking at me. I didn't know that was gonna happen. And then I get on the other slide with my daughter because she I didn't even think she was gonna get on the big kid side of the playground. But she she got brave and she did it and she loved it and she wanted to keep going on the slide, but she's too little to go on the slide by herself because it's like a really long slide. So I would go on there with her and she'd go on my lap. But on that one, it was so bumpy, and I was wearing shorts, so my legs kept getting stuck. So I kept like squeaking all the way down. I was like, oh my gosh, I guess there's no winning on these slides, but yeah, and then you have those kids who are running around all nasty. That was annoying. That's the first time I seen that. I went to oh, I think for one of your kids' parties, we went to indoor playground. I don't know if you remember, and there was a kid who looked like had poop all up their back, just running around. Wow. That and I was just like done. I was done. Yeah. So that's why I was so upset. Like that's just what I seen. Imagine what we don't see. Right. Like, check on your kids, make sure they're using the potty, make sure like you're like you're checking. You can't just let them be in there for hours. And stay prepared. We had a we had an episode where we talked about putting stuff in the car, having an extra pair of clothes, having a just a corner in your car if you can squeeze it in your trunk of snacks, clothes, diapers, and staying prepared. You never know. My mom always has stuff to this day in her car. She stay ready, so you ain't gotta get ready. Because you don't know. Even if you aren't prepared, even if you aren't ready, that doesn't mean all right, keep playing and get your nasty freaking germs all over the place. Like that's nasty. That is so gross. It's such bad parenting. It's just, it's all around just disturbing, disgusting. You're passing around bacterias and and bad ones too. Anything that has to do with bodily fluids is nasty. You don't want to be running around with an adult who has something going on, and you sit behind after them, and kids are constantly catching things that we don't want. Leave. And a lot of these indoor playgrounds have wristbands, so you have all day passes. Yeah, you just come back. Like just don't be freaking lazy. And a lot of times they're also in like a shopping center. Like if you don't want to go all the way home, like just go get them a change of clothes real quick. Like it don't have to be anything expensive. Just you know, whatever the freak you find that's super cheap, just for them to continue to play. Like, that's so freaking rude. Yeah, t-shirt or shorts, it's five bucks. Easy. And yeah, there are definitely shopping centers around so far, the ones that we've gone to. Yeah, I think all of the majority that I've been to, they're in some type of shopping center. Or there's a shopping center across the street, whatever the case is. But yeah, that was freaking frustrating. But other than that, it was a good time. Um, you know, the kids had a lot of fun. Um, Brise, uh, my daughter, Brisea, she's into dancing now. So that's one thing we've been doing. Mm-hmm. Oh, one thing we've been doing. Um, I I'll put on music in the morning. And typically it's like Selena radio that I put on. So we're like listening to Mexican music. And you know, she'll be like dancing, dancing. So then her and I start dancing together, and she um she heard the music. There was they have a room at that specific place that we went to, um, where they have like a dancing room and there's like the lights and the music. And we went in there and she was dancing away, and she oh, she was so excited. It was she was having such a good time. So I was glad she was able to experience that because last time we went, it was about a year ago, and she just wasn't doing the same stuff, but you know, there's a huge difference between two and three and like their abilities to do things and like on their own too. So that was a lot of fun. Um, we also went to a graduation party. I don't think we talked about that a couple weeks ago. Yeah, we didn't talk, we didn't have time to talk about that. That was fun. We also danced there too, her and I um, but she wanted to be in my arms dancing, and I was like sweating, like my arms were getting sore. Like, oh my gosh. But that was also a good time. Um, I I was I didn't drink that night. It was my husband's turn to drink, but every everyone, well, not everyone, but a lot of the people were definitely on the good one. So it's you know, interesting to see how people act when you're sober. It's like yes, you're not part of that crowd. Yeah. Yeah. But it it was a good time. My nephew, the one who graduated, he had a really, really good time. Oh, and I made a cake. Yeah. I didn't, I I'm not gonna post it because it does have his face on it, and I don't know if he would appreciate that, but it was the first time I made a cake that had an edible photo on it, and it was so cute. I really enjoyed making that cake. I was frost at first because I, like I said, I've never done that before. I didn't know what would happen to it, and it did get a little like bubbly, like towards like well, maybe like about an hour or two after I did it. But I think it was maybe the icing that I used. But I mean, overall though, it looked pretty good. It cake was delicious. I made it just such his cake. Um, that's what he asked me for. Um so it it was so good. So I I was like, oh, do I want to do this again? I so just a little fun fact in high school, um, my friend and I took a cake decorating class. So for a long time, I made cakes for people and or like cupcakes, whatever. Um, eventually I just stopped because it's just so much work. Yeah, so many little details. And it's like stressful, and I just don't have that in me, like to do it as a thing. But well, I'll get the itch, or like a family member will ask my nephew. That was terrible as a request. And typically I'll just like make it and I'll just throw some fruit on it or whatever. So like I didn't decorate it too much. Right. And it's good to go. But this time I was like, you know what? Let me let me just do this and see how it turns out. So like the picture was of him. So he graduated high school, but the picture I used was his kindergarten graduation picture. Oh and it it was good. It was it was so freaking cute. So yeah, that worked out. But I think that's like all that I've been up to. Yeah. This summer. But like I said, just having fun with the kids, trying to keep them busy, trying to keep them learning and their brains engaged and not to forget. At least my son not to forget what he learned in school.

SPEAKER_01 1:06:52

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 1:06:52

Yeah, this pastor. All about that education. Big time. You know, we're we're big about education over here. That's plenty. Keeping the kids busy. You're keeping the kids busy. Earlier. No idle time. Idle time calls for idle trouble. So keep your kids off the street unless they're doing active, they're actively engaging in positive things, riding bikes like still chatting about and hanging out, playing baseball and all that fun stuff. But keeping the kids actively engaged in something positive is necessary for the summer. And plan for it. Make the plans. Or don't plan, but have ideas and listen to podcasts like us to help give you some ideas and share with your friends and family because there are so many things out there to do during the summer. You have to hunt for it or be creative. But there are a lot of activities out there for the kids to do. And if you're able, if you still have to work during the summer, there are still plenty of things out there to leave the kids to do and give them a little bit of guidance, but don't let them roam aimlessly in the street. Please don't. Oh my gosh. This is wrong for so many reasons. I just don't. And and again, and I know parents work, not everyone gets the summer off. That's very rare, depending on your job description. But leave leave things for them to do. Give them some responsibility. Or if they're with grandma, make sure grandma has a list of things to do that's easy and tangible for her to put in front of the kids to do. And not everything doesn't have to be so structured because again, we've also talked about being bored, but sweet Jesus, a little bit of structure never hurt anybody.

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Okay.

SPEAKER_00 1:08:41

Right. It's so funny. You mentioned, you know, not everyone gets the summers off. I remember the first summer I had off once I got into education. My son, he was so confused. Like, wait a minute, how come dad's not here? Like, where's he? Why is he working? Well, because he he needs to work. That's his job. He's well, you're off. Well, yeah, but you know, this this is my job. This is, you know, I get to have the time off. And so every time he Oh, can we go to someone's house? No, their parents are working. What? Why is everyone work? Not everyone is able to. So this is definitely a blessing to be able to be there with be here with the kids. But yeah, no, not everyone. Yeah. He was so like, what? People still have to work in the summer? Like, yes, yes, yes. There's summer camps. Again, if if you're Thailand on money though, and you have a system that works, share that with us. But for those that are looking for things to do, just type it in. Again, go to your local library. They offer the reading clubs, read a book things. And that's that's it sounds maybe so minute, but just having that one thing that the kid, your child can look forward to, or in you too, about reading a book a month or a week, whatever the challenges for the summer. There are so many things. We've moved to a lot of small towns and all these little towns that we've been living in. They're movie theaters, offer free movie showings. So look into that. A lot of the theaters that are probably in older buildings and not the big name, commercial ends, offer showings of old movies that you can obviously watch at home, but you're in the theater environment and it's either free or for a cheaper price. A dollar for the movie, and everything is at a lower price. So Google it, look into the there's so many fun things out there. Those are a couple things that we're tapping into with the summer. So explore, teach your child how to ride a bike, do bike rides, teach them how to tie their shoe, get those milestones under their belt during the summer, tap into that, see what they need help in. So I think that's great. I think your summer is sounds amazing. So everything is great. I'm sad we're not there. At a resort. I need to add a resort to my Oh my gosh. Go to Kalahari. Go to Kalahari. Take us with you. Oh my gosh. It's so good. So good. Do it. All right, pours. We are at the end of our episode. So thank you so much for tuning in. Hopefully, what we said was relatable and maybe you got some good tips or oh thank god I'm not alone in this. So thanks for tuning into pouring and parenting. Recip happens and we pour about it.